i also have a skin disorder which is of course not contagious and the only person who asked me out has a slight emotional and mental problem so i did not agree.i also find it very difficult to make friends and i am mean to those that love me.i obviously have a lot of problems so i need help fast.Thank u very much if u reply my message.
What do i do if at fifteen i do not have a boyfriend cos i am fat and i have at bad and unfriendly attitude.?
You have to look into why you have such an unfriendly attitude. More than likely, you aren't happy with yourself and you just have a tendency to take it out on other people. You need to learn to love yourself first and foremost, or no one else will ever be able to make you happy anyway.
Is there anything that you can do about your skin disorder? Are there any medications that a dermatologist can prescribe to lessen the effects? I'm sure this would help you feel alot less self-conscious. Also, if you feel like you are fat, just start exercising. Start eating healthy. Being overweight is a choice, just like being healthy is. Its not going to be easy, but set realistic goals for yourself. Try to lose 5-7 lbs a month. I know that doesn't sound like very much, but over a few months time it will definitely start to show! Also, when you lose weight over a period of time, you'll be more likely to keep it off!
And ... you need to learn that your worth is not decided by how you look or if you have a boyfriend. I know that's alot easier said than done. Since it seems like you have big self-image problems, you might want to talk to your parents about seeing a counselor. Work on your feelings about yourself and you'll find it much easier to be nice to other people. You'll also notice people wanting to spend more time with you because your attitude will improve! Boys come and go, but having self-confidence problems can cause a lifetime of unnecessary hardship and pain. I wish you the best of luck!
Reply:If you know that you are being mean then stop being mean....it really can't be that hard.
Reply:first off, work on the bad unfriendly attitude.
secondly, you'll be surprised at how much better you'll like people, and they'll like you.
Reply:First of all... try being nice to people
and if you wanna lose weight work out
Reply:Get a better attitude.
Seek Jesus.
Lose weight.
Be friendly.
Be flirty.
Reply:Talk you your parents and get to a doctor.
Reply:Dont worry bout being fat. If you get taller youll thin out. Just keep trying.
Reply:maybe try to b nicer and start working out and eatinv heailther running is great for u start w some small jogs and work ur way up and dont take for grante wat u have
Reply:you just outlined the reasons why you dont have a boyfriend. you are fat, and a *****. the solution is to lose some weight and try and be more friendly towards people for starters.
Reply:first of all...everyone needs somebody so there is somone out there for you...LOSE THE BAD ATTITUDE nobody likes a mean person...start exercising and start loving yourself...and somebody will love you....STOP BEING MEAN !!! and start trying to be a little more outgoing...hope i could help !
Reply:I'll be your friend.
Reply:hit the gymor play some sports, lose the 'tude
Reply:Noone here can help you, you already know all of your problems, you list them in the question.
Start treating people better, or get used to being alone. This is called growing up.
Reply:u should go see a phyciotrist, however that's spelt. U obviously have lots of problems like u said and need help. I am also 15, but not like u. I have a boyfriend, I make friends, and I'm nice. lol, see a doctor....
Reply:Well sounds like you have the attitude of a lesbian. Go find a girlfriend.
Reply:Maybe to lose some weight. Activity helps you in more ways than one. I'm not depressed or as mean as I used to be because I get up and do stuff now.
Reply:I'm sure it's more your attitude than a skin disorder or weight. Work on improving your attitude problem and you shouldn't have too much of a problem. It's all about confidence.
Reply:You are only 15. Who needs a boyfriend then? They are nothing but trouble. Wait until they (and you) grow up a bit. You are still becoming the person you are meant to be. Don't be so hard on yourself. Focus on improving what you can. A lot of things seem to work themselves out all by themselves as you get a little older. Best wishes to you.
Reply:First work on your attitude, perhaps counseling that is the biggest thing keeping people away from you.
Talk to your doctor about the weight and for the skin problem he might be able to recommend a dermatologist.
But the attitude and how you treat people is first, seek counseling.
Reply:well, now that you know you have a problem, it is time to do somethign about it.
work out and drink plenty of water to keep pounds off and keep your skin clear.
you know you have a bad attitued towards people, now you just need to learn how to control your emotions, because as humans, we are all completely in control of whether something makes us mad, happy, sad, or excited.
you just need to work your problems out.. fix yourself first.. hold off on a relationship because that will only complicate things.
Reply:well you could start with trying to be a nicer person. duh
Reply:i don't think that you're going to find any quick fixes here, you need to see a professional about your attitude. maybe you could talk to your school counselor. you have to remember that you are in control of everything you say and do, from being mean to people and treating them like crap to what you are eating that's making you overweight. you need to gain some self-respect among other things.
Reply:You can start by finding something good about yourself!!!
Reply:You will find the right person someday. Have you ever had one? There is some guy out there for you and you will find him one day. Dont worry you are still young so there is plenty of time to find one.
Reply:Sounds like you answered your own question. You know the problems.... So what more would you like? I'm sure if you start being nice things can work out for you. Have A Happy New Year!
Reply:keep up the good work just please dont breed
Reply:change ur attitude...go on a diet...go to a dermatologist(however u spell it) and ask for a skin cream...u said u needed help...this is the best i can do...sorry if u get offended
Reply:well ur like me im mean to the ones who love me but im trying to change myself loose weight,i hate socializing to who wants 2 socialize but preppy ppl?well ur welcome well i see a counselor and this is how i help ppl out with there problems youll find some one that you like and you like them back im 15 to and im almost with the boy of my dreams but my family dont like him and im triny to change that sorry so long i hoped you found what you was looking 4! best wishes 2 u
Reply:Celebrate because you won't up end a single baby momma on welfare like so many other teens.
Your appearance issues will clear up while you are in college and life will be way better because you be on track to a successful career .
God must have something special he wants you to do after the teen years pass.
Reply:At the age of fifteen it is not critical or even wise to have a boyfriend.
Stop and think, what are the reasons for having a boyfriend?
My only answer is the reason for me to have a girlfriend is to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her.
Is there any other good reason?
I mean, what other reason is there?
So at the age of fifteen I hardly think that you will find true love.
When your heart is broken after you give it to someone you lose part of your heart. Wait until your atleast age-worthy to understand love then consider with alot of time and knowing a person that you would love them and be loved.
Once you find what love truly is and maturity has set in (no offense) then when you find love, it won't matter what weight you are, and by that time perhaps life will have tought you lessons on how to treat others and you will have changed socially.
Skin disorder will also mean nothing if you are truly in love.
Only God and family will be the highest appreciations in a true love situation and if this is true it won't matter what physical attributes you have.
So my advice is- wait. It sucks, believe me, but
"if it's worth waiting for, then it's worth waiting for; if it's not worth waiting for- then it's not worth it."
I hope I wasn't thoroughly confusing. If you want to talk more on the subject, you can email me at my yahoo page, or consult more of my best answers to get further clarity.
There is a reason why courting and waiting for marriage etc, produced longer relationships that could span up to 70 years.
I myself know people in that situation. But now in today's have it now have it your way society things fall apart because no foundation was laid.
There is a reason the old-folks have things that work in life.
And there is a reason why less works today.
Rambo.
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