I have to diagnos these following scenarios:
"Steve, age 34, has spent the last 3 weeks in teh hospital being treated for an alaphylactic reaction to penicillin which was injected to treat another disorder. Steve was aware of his penicillin sensitivity, but did not inform anyone in the hospital of the problem. Growing up he was a sickly child and had numerous childhood illnesse. He spent most of his adult like in and out of hospitals. He blames these numerous visits on other people being irresponsible and not doing there job to find out what is wrong with him. When Steve is admitted to a hospital, he is a bad patient, requiring extra care and constant monitoring. As soon as he is discharged from one hospital, he presents himself at another. Some of his symptoms have included acute gastrointestinal pain, skin ulcerations(from injecting saliva under his skin), and blindness(he poured caustic lye into his eyes to produce blindness.)
Any diagnoses are greatly appreciated! thanks.
I have a couple of questions for my psych homework that I don't understand, here it is:?
According to the DSM-IV-TR (pg. 513), the difference between malingering and facticious disorders is that the self injury in malingering cases is purposeful (e.g., they are trying to get out of jury duty or something). In the case above, the patient's only motivation is to "assume the sick role." Thus, I'd say he suffers from "factitious disorder with predominantly physical signs and symptoms"--if you wanted to include both the type and subtype in your answer (pg. 514). Oh, and just so you know, while "Munchausan's" is probably correct--it is not an official DSM-IV diagnosis. Your psych prof might want you to stick to the DSM-IV manual. If so, just list the type and subtype in your answer. Good luck!
Reply:and the name of the disease slips my tongue.......Munchausen syndrome
Reply:Munchausen syndrome is a type of factitious disorder, or mental illness, in which a person repeatedly acts as if he or she has a physical or mental disorder when, in truth, they have caused the symptoms. People with factitious disorders act this way because of an inner need to be seen as ill or injured, not to achieve a concrete benefit, such as financial gain. They are even willing to undergo painful or risky tests and operations in order to get the sympathy and special attention given to people who are truly ill. Munchausen syndrome is a mental illness associated with severe emotional difficulties.
Reply:munchausen syndome pretty sure this is it
http://www.clevelandclinic.org/health/he...
Reply:Look it up, there is something called Munchhousen's Syndrome that sounds like this, where the patient hurts themselves to get to the hospital.
Reply:It sounds as if he might have Munchausen's. (That might not be spelled right, so be sure to double-check.) These patients are, in a sense, medical care addicts. They will cause themselves to become injured or sick for the specific goal of receiving medical care, usually in a hospital. Because they want to remain in the hospital, they can be difficult patients to work with, since they depend on deceiving their physicians to keep their story going as long as possible. They often go from one hospital to another, since as soon as a hospital discovers that they have this psychological disorder the hospital will refuse to give any medical care. It sounds like Steve might have only received attention from his illnesses as a child, and this pattern caused him to believe that he would only be given care/love/attention when he was ill. As a result, he feels a compulsion to lie/hurt himself in order to obtain that attention.
This disorder is different from a patient who self-injures: these patients find emotional relief in the act of self-injury itself and will often avoid seeking medical care for their self-inflicted injuries.
Reply:Its sounds like a somatoform disorder, probably conversion disorder because the symptoms don't seem to make biological sense, indicating that he is malingering.
However, conversion disorders typically occur after a seriously stressful event and occur as a way for the patient to escape, so I may be wrong.
What about somatization disorder? Because he seeks medical treatment and because it started in childhood...
Munchausen's also seems likely because he blames others for his "bad care".
What do you think?
bougainvillea
Monday, November 21, 2011
Who would do this?
By Detoxing and Rejuvenating your Mind, Body and Spirit,
1. You allow yourself to heal from any toxins that have been held inside your body,
2. You allow your Mind to release any harsh feelings or Sad emotions,
3. You allow your Spirit to become open and free. Once you ahve Detoxified and Rejuvenated your Mind Body and Spirit,
4. You can finally Allow yourself to enjoy real Homeostasis.
(Homeostasis: Optimal Well being, Optimal Health, At a point in your life when all is ok, and righht with you Physically, Mentally, Emotionall, and Spiritually.)
Stress can make any disorder worse. May it be Mental Emotional or physical. Stress is when you worry way too much about things that can be fix with a little effort on your own personal part.
Stress has been proven to cause serious health risks, such as heart disease, Endurance Problems, Fatigue, Emotional Imbalances, etc.
There are options to dealing stress and weight loss. Such as Detox plans and rejuvenation Plans, as the one I have enclosed.
I definitely stress that you consult your physician, about anything new or changes in your daily regimine. As this plan will affect other areas of your Daily living and Medications.
Please feel free to Copy and Print this to your own Blank Text and save it and print it out when you go to your DR again.
--------------------------------------...
One month detox and rejuvenation plan
STEP ONE: Detox: (week one)
a), Drink lots of water
b) lay off the sodas, beer, tea, coffee, etc
c) Basically go on a water fast(drink water only and no food), for 7days consecutively.
d)for even more detoxifying effects, maybe sit in a Sauna for about 20-30 minutes, twice during your 7day detox(once when during day two and once during day four), allowing your pores to open up and allow the toxins to come out.
STEP TWO: Rejuvenate (Goes hand in hand with step one, done during the entire month and future days) (If you are under the age of 18 with a proper ID, You have to be accompanied by a parent to any Spa or Massage Clinic.)
a) Go to a spa, and enjoy a nice warm Mud Bath or a Bodywrap, Then a two hour Massage, starting with ROM Assessment/Joint therapy, to relieve any joint stress or tension,
b) Then a Little Myofascial Stretching to give the skin and muscle a nice warming stretch,
c) Then a slightly Vigorus Swedish to relax the muscles,
d) Then a Little acupressure to relieve any trigger points,
e) Then ending a soft Swedish to really relax those muscles.
f) Then maybe get a nice salt scrub to really open your pores, and soften the skin.
g) Then take a nice warm shower, rinse away any toxin that may have come to the surface, and excess oils from the salt scrub.
h) Then rinse with cold water to tighten the pores and waken the bodys energies and chakras.
i) Find a reiki practioner and get a session to help restart your chakras as you may have a few that need a boost.
STEP THREE: Exercise, (can be done during step one and two, and is incorporated into our lives forever til we die)
Try a Tai chi Class, Yoga, Pilates, Aerobics, or Jazzercise, Maybe take up swimming, or Ballrom Dancing.
STEP FOUR: Eat Proper ( this starts during week two and continues into our everyday lives) (with fewer/healthier meals/snacks for thinner people), and (Smaller portions But more often/healthier meals/snacks with heavier people)
STEP FIVE:Plan yourself a Healthy But tasty diet plan including and starting with: (this is just a recommended plan Not set in stone if you know what I mean.)
BREAKFAST:
Minimum of 8oz glass of water at room temp each morning,
Followed by a 8oz glass of Freshly juiced Organic Fruit juice, 3 Apples, 2 slices of pineapple, 1 pear, and four carrots, this will give your body a Natural energetic boost.
Then followed by a warm bowl of Whole oat cereal.
No refined sugars, If you need sweet use honey, or maple syrup.
SNACKS include:
light leafy salads, Natural Nuts, Organic anything.
LUNCH:
eat a Nice veggie salad with vinegar and Oil dressing, Not Italian or any thing with dairy. Follow it with a warm Turkey or Chicken breast sandwich (skinless, and as little fat as possible if any all. Try to avoid any heavy meats Like beef or pork during the early moring or lunch times. Follow the sandwich with some watermelon or strawberries, or some kind of fresh fruit salad if you are a still hungry or just want a nice desert. Watermelon or any type of Melon will help to fill you up faster.
Drink water at a couple of degrees cooler than room tempurature.
DINNER:
start with a nice small Garden salad with tomatoes, leafy lettuce, radishes, carrot slivers, Almonds, Sunflower seed Kernals, and Spinach, again with a vinegarette, instead of salad dressing. Followed by Either a baked or broiled Poultry or Fish Dinner fresh of course, no frozen crap. No Fried, Minimal If you want Butter try to get Organic or some sort of spread that has low carb and transfat count., Or just stay away from Butter all together, But use lemon at your own choosing, fresh pepper(s), No salt, fresh Green beans , Organic Whole wheat bread, Whole grain Pastas if you prefer. Organic Rice.
Anything and everything Organic
Stay away from Refined sugars(candy, or anything non organic
If anything at all try to eat as organic as you can possibly eat. IF you read a lables Ingrediants list, and you can't pronounce the words then it is toxic for your Body, and Mind, and
Who would do this?
good idea but.... i love to eat and coul not get past the water fast
1. You allow yourself to heal from any toxins that have been held inside your body,
2. You allow your Mind to release any harsh feelings or Sad emotions,
3. You allow your Spirit to become open and free. Once you ahve Detoxified and Rejuvenated your Mind Body and Spirit,
4. You can finally Allow yourself to enjoy real Homeostasis.
(Homeostasis: Optimal Well being, Optimal Health, At a point in your life when all is ok, and righht with you Physically, Mentally, Emotionall, and Spiritually.)
Stress can make any disorder worse. May it be Mental Emotional or physical. Stress is when you worry way too much about things that can be fix with a little effort on your own personal part.
Stress has been proven to cause serious health risks, such as heart disease, Endurance Problems, Fatigue, Emotional Imbalances, etc.
There are options to dealing stress and weight loss. Such as Detox plans and rejuvenation Plans, as the one I have enclosed.
I definitely stress that you consult your physician, about anything new or changes in your daily regimine. As this plan will affect other areas of your Daily living and Medications.
Please feel free to Copy and Print this to your own Blank Text and save it and print it out when you go to your DR again.
--------------------------------------...
One month detox and rejuvenation plan
STEP ONE: Detox: (week one)
a), Drink lots of water
b) lay off the sodas, beer, tea, coffee, etc
c) Basically go on a water fast(drink water only and no food), for 7days consecutively.
d)for even more detoxifying effects, maybe sit in a Sauna for about 20-30 minutes, twice during your 7day detox(once when during day two and once during day four), allowing your pores to open up and allow the toxins to come out.
STEP TWO: Rejuvenate (Goes hand in hand with step one, done during the entire month and future days) (If you are under the age of 18 with a proper ID, You have to be accompanied by a parent to any Spa or Massage Clinic.)
a) Go to a spa, and enjoy a nice warm Mud Bath or a Bodywrap, Then a two hour Massage, starting with ROM Assessment/Joint therapy, to relieve any joint stress or tension,
b) Then a Little Myofascial Stretching to give the skin and muscle a nice warming stretch,
c) Then a slightly Vigorus Swedish to relax the muscles,
d) Then a Little acupressure to relieve any trigger points,
e) Then ending a soft Swedish to really relax those muscles.
f) Then maybe get a nice salt scrub to really open your pores, and soften the skin.
g) Then take a nice warm shower, rinse away any toxin that may have come to the surface, and excess oils from the salt scrub.
h) Then rinse with cold water to tighten the pores and waken the bodys energies and chakras.
i) Find a reiki practioner and get a session to help restart your chakras as you may have a few that need a boost.
STEP THREE: Exercise, (can be done during step one and two, and is incorporated into our lives forever til we die)
Try a Tai chi Class, Yoga, Pilates, Aerobics, or Jazzercise, Maybe take up swimming, or Ballrom Dancing.
STEP FOUR: Eat Proper ( this starts during week two and continues into our everyday lives) (with fewer/healthier meals/snacks for thinner people), and (Smaller portions But more often/healthier meals/snacks with heavier people)
STEP FIVE:Plan yourself a Healthy But tasty diet plan including and starting with: (this is just a recommended plan Not set in stone if you know what I mean.)
BREAKFAST:
Minimum of 8oz glass of water at room temp each morning,
Followed by a 8oz glass of Freshly juiced Organic Fruit juice, 3 Apples, 2 slices of pineapple, 1 pear, and four carrots, this will give your body a Natural energetic boost.
Then followed by a warm bowl of Whole oat cereal.
No refined sugars, If you need sweet use honey, or maple syrup.
SNACKS include:
light leafy salads, Natural Nuts, Organic anything.
LUNCH:
eat a Nice veggie salad with vinegar and Oil dressing, Not Italian or any thing with dairy. Follow it with a warm Turkey or Chicken breast sandwich (skinless, and as little fat as possible if any all. Try to avoid any heavy meats Like beef or pork during the early moring or lunch times. Follow the sandwich with some watermelon or strawberries, or some kind of fresh fruit salad if you are a still hungry or just want a nice desert. Watermelon or any type of Melon will help to fill you up faster.
Drink water at a couple of degrees cooler than room tempurature.
DINNER:
start with a nice small Garden salad with tomatoes, leafy lettuce, radishes, carrot slivers, Almonds, Sunflower seed Kernals, and Spinach, again with a vinegarette, instead of salad dressing. Followed by Either a baked or broiled Poultry or Fish Dinner fresh of course, no frozen crap. No Fried, Minimal If you want Butter try to get Organic or some sort of spread that has low carb and transfat count., Or just stay away from Butter all together, But use lemon at your own choosing, fresh pepper(s), No salt, fresh Green beans , Organic Whole wheat bread, Whole grain Pastas if you prefer. Organic Rice.
Anything and everything Organic
Stay away from Refined sugars(candy, or anything non organic
If anything at all try to eat as organic as you can possibly eat. IF you read a lables Ingrediants list, and you can't pronounce the words then it is toxic for your Body, and Mind, and
Who would do this?
good idea but.... i love to eat and coul not get past the water fast
Skinny, yet still have fat?
Alright, well people always tell me all the time how thin I am. One time my mother took me to a nutritionist because she thought I had an eating disorder, and you get it, people think I'm skinny.
My measurements for my waist is 26in an dhips at 35in, which I think is small as well?
Anyway, my point being, although I look the part, I still have a lot of fat (or skin) on my stomach, hips, thighs. I am not exaggerating, I can literally grab a handful of it off of my stomach and I laugh when people ask why I'm wearing a one piece to the pool.
How come this is? Is it skin or fat? How do I get rid of it?Why do I have it? I will not talk to my doctor about this for we really don't get along ever since she accused me of having anorexia.
I personally think it's fat because I have lost ionches by working out.
Thanks for reading this and please respond!
Skinny, yet still have fat?
Anyone can grab skin/fat off their stomach. It is not excess fat, it's normal. If you couldn't grab skin or fat from your stomach, it would be because you were just bones! Stop worrying, your measurements are fine, you sound pefect : )
Reply:Have you lost weight if so its skin. or maybe its just fat. Try lipo!
Reply:You have lost too much weight. This is excess skin. Eat.
Reply:It sounds like the look you desire will require more activity, and also more eating.
Reply:I don't think 26-35 is skinny. It's thin. But don't loose more or you'll become skinny.
Reply:more likley it is excess skin, if i were you i would save up a few grand and go to the plastic surgeon and get that skin surgicly removed, hell if you want people to show the precedure on tv you probably get a huge discount or maybee even get it for free
Reply:if it's skin ab workouts should help to tighten the skin.. and since you're lean, if it's skin in can't be all that bad..
if its fats, well, i can empathize, lol. just need to workout more, they build up when i slack off.
but then again, everyone's body is different.. handle in input-output ratio? take up gourmet cooking? lol.. quality over quantity when it comes to food.. yep.
Reply:go to a gym and get a personal trainer, you need toned is all.
Reply:DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU SWEAT TIL YOUR CLOTHES ARE WET...NOT KIDDING AND CHECK THE FAT CONTENT ON WHATEVER IS IN YOUR DIET....
Reply:That handful that you are able to grab is your skin. Further, it is impossible for a human to have 0% body fat.
Reply:My personal trainer would call you a skinny fat chick , not to be mean though, You just need to work out and firm your body than you look and feel more toned.
Reply:sorrie to burst your bubble, but if you honestly think like that, then you probably are anorexic.
Reply:I'm skinny as welll so I know how it feels.
You probably aren't exercising enough. But you can still be skinny because you probably eat right or don't eat enough.
Hope I Helped.
Reply:It's probably mostly skin and some fat. Continue to work out because that's the best thing anyone can do for themselves. Try a yoga or pilates class since their focus is on the core, or center of your body. Also, fat is a healthy thing. Not a lot, but a little as insulation for the body. No one wants any but you must accept that everyone will have a little. Don't worry about what you can grab people can't see what you "could" stretch away from your belly.
Reply:It's probably fat. And you have it because you're supposed to, you're a female. You're naturally supposed to maintain a higher level of body fat, and it's your body's way of keeping you safe and warm by keeping bits of fat on your body.
Excessively low body fat percentages can lead to not so great effects like completely halted menstural cycles.
But if you have such a problem with your doctor, then you should probably switch to a new one.
Reply:first you look good! second you neeed a new doctor
Reply:You know wut... for my thought you are skinny... bu the thing is that you feel fat...and when you look at the mirrow you see yourself as being fat... and that is not true... just be comfortable with what you have... cauz... as people have told you you are thin... and that is ok.... but if you are doing somethin to loose weight is not good for you... that can become an addiction.... think that you have the perfect body... and you are super OK with it... and then when you start believing what you are thinking... you'll see you'll notice how great your body is..... just know~ you are perfect as you are..... i am telling you this cauz i have had that experience..... but now i feel better about body...super comfortable and all...... just be yourself and don't worry cauz you will be alright.... who cares... if you wear a bikini??? SUPER fat girls wear bikinis...and they don't care about their weight... ecause they are comfortable as they look....... so don't try to please others with your beauty or body...... just please yourself~ if someone likes you..it should be because of who you are not because of how you look..... well i hope this answer will help you... anyways...... take care o yourself.... and good luck
My measurements for my waist is 26in an dhips at 35in, which I think is small as well?
Anyway, my point being, although I look the part, I still have a lot of fat (or skin) on my stomach, hips, thighs. I am not exaggerating, I can literally grab a handful of it off of my stomach and I laugh when people ask why I'm wearing a one piece to the pool.
How come this is? Is it skin or fat? How do I get rid of it?Why do I have it? I will not talk to my doctor about this for we really don't get along ever since she accused me of having anorexia.
I personally think it's fat because I have lost ionches by working out.
Thanks for reading this and please respond!
Skinny, yet still have fat?
Anyone can grab skin/fat off their stomach. It is not excess fat, it's normal. If you couldn't grab skin or fat from your stomach, it would be because you were just bones! Stop worrying, your measurements are fine, you sound pefect : )
Reply:Have you lost weight if so its skin. or maybe its just fat. Try lipo!
Reply:You have lost too much weight. This is excess skin. Eat.
Reply:It sounds like the look you desire will require more activity, and also more eating.
Reply:I don't think 26-35 is skinny. It's thin. But don't loose more or you'll become skinny.
Reply:more likley it is excess skin, if i were you i would save up a few grand and go to the plastic surgeon and get that skin surgicly removed, hell if you want people to show the precedure on tv you probably get a huge discount or maybee even get it for free
Reply:if it's skin ab workouts should help to tighten the skin.. and since you're lean, if it's skin in can't be all that bad..
if its fats, well, i can empathize, lol. just need to workout more, they build up when i slack off.
but then again, everyone's body is different.. handle in input-output ratio? take up gourmet cooking? lol.. quality over quantity when it comes to food.. yep.
Reply:go to a gym and get a personal trainer, you need toned is all.
Reply:DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU SWEAT TIL YOUR CLOTHES ARE WET...NOT KIDDING AND CHECK THE FAT CONTENT ON WHATEVER IS IN YOUR DIET....
Reply:That handful that you are able to grab is your skin. Further, it is impossible for a human to have 0% body fat.
Reply:My personal trainer would call you a skinny fat chick , not to be mean though, You just need to work out and firm your body than you look and feel more toned.
Reply:sorrie to burst your bubble, but if you honestly think like that, then you probably are anorexic.
Reply:I'm skinny as welll so I know how it feels.
You probably aren't exercising enough. But you can still be skinny because you probably eat right or don't eat enough.
Hope I Helped.
Reply:It's probably mostly skin and some fat. Continue to work out because that's the best thing anyone can do for themselves. Try a yoga or pilates class since their focus is on the core, or center of your body. Also, fat is a healthy thing. Not a lot, but a little as insulation for the body. No one wants any but you must accept that everyone will have a little. Don't worry about what you can grab people can't see what you "could" stretch away from your belly.
Reply:It's probably fat. And you have it because you're supposed to, you're a female. You're naturally supposed to maintain a higher level of body fat, and it's your body's way of keeping you safe and warm by keeping bits of fat on your body.
Excessively low body fat percentages can lead to not so great effects like completely halted menstural cycles.
But if you have such a problem with your doctor, then you should probably switch to a new one.
Reply:first you look good! second you neeed a new doctor
Reply:You know wut... for my thought you are skinny... bu the thing is that you feel fat...and when you look at the mirrow you see yourself as being fat... and that is not true... just be comfortable with what you have... cauz... as people have told you you are thin... and that is ok.... but if you are doing somethin to loose weight is not good for you... that can become an addiction.... think that you have the perfect body... and you are super OK with it... and then when you start believing what you are thinking... you'll see you'll notice how great your body is..... just know~ you are perfect as you are..... i am telling you this cauz i have had that experience..... but now i feel better about body...super comfortable and all...... just be yourself and don't worry cauz you will be alright.... who cares... if you wear a bikini??? SUPER fat girls wear bikinis...and they don't care about their weight... ecause they are comfortable as they look....... so don't try to please others with your beauty or body...... just please yourself~ if someone likes you..it should be because of who you are not because of how you look..... well i hope this answer will help you... anyways...... take care o yourself.... and good luck
Is it likely. . .?
to have regular periods and still have PCOS, too? I'm being tested on the 23rd- but I'm freaking out in the meantime.
As far as symptoms go:
I check my sugar daily, because I have a family history of diabetes. It's always in the normal-low range, even after I've eated a large meal.
My periods are on the heavy side. I do have a bleeding disorder, so I don't know if this contributes.
I don't have excess hair- but I do have a few stray hairs on my toes.
My BP is on the low side.
I have acne. I'm 21. . . but my husband and everyone else I know my age tends to have SOME acne. It's nothing horrible. One or two zits every now and then.
I have a few skin tags- two under my arm, two on the side of my neck, and about five small ones on my neck.
As for dark skin patches- I think I have some under my arm- but compared to pictures they aren't the same.
What's the chances?
Is it likely. . .?
Honestly, the symptoms you're describing are symptoms that are common for everyone. Who doesn't get a little acne from time to time, who doesn't have a few skin tags? Your BP and blood sugar look good. I know you have regular periods, but do you ovulate regularly?
I wouldn't even go in there assuming anything. I think it's possible to have the symptoms you're describing and not have PCOS.
Good luck and try not to worry.
Reply:I have PCOS but not too many of the symptoms, except not ovulationg and I'm a little overweight. The chances are good, but it doesn't sound like a severe case
As far as symptoms go:
I check my sugar daily, because I have a family history of diabetes. It's always in the normal-low range, even after I've eated a large meal.
My periods are on the heavy side. I do have a bleeding disorder, so I don't know if this contributes.
I don't have excess hair- but I do have a few stray hairs on my toes.
My BP is on the low side.
I have acne. I'm 21. . . but my husband and everyone else I know my age tends to have SOME acne. It's nothing horrible. One or two zits every now and then.
I have a few skin tags- two under my arm, two on the side of my neck, and about five small ones on my neck.
As for dark skin patches- I think I have some under my arm- but compared to pictures they aren't the same.
What's the chances?
Is it likely. . .?
Honestly, the symptoms you're describing are symptoms that are common for everyone. Who doesn't get a little acne from time to time, who doesn't have a few skin tags? Your BP and blood sugar look good. I know you have regular periods, but do you ovulate regularly?
I wouldn't even go in there assuming anything. I think it's possible to have the symptoms you're describing and not have PCOS.
Good luck and try not to worry.
Reply:I have PCOS but not too many of the symptoms, except not ovulationg and I'm a little overweight. The chances are good, but it doesn't sound like a severe case
Could this be a tick bite?
A few days ago I saw what seemed to be a black freckle on my lower leg that had some redness and peeling skin around it. The skin was peeling in a way that can't quite be grabbed, but surrounded it like a bulls eye. The redness is basically a blot.
After speaking to my parents about it they told me that it is too small to be a tick because they bloat as they take in blood. Since I have OCD and Anxiety Disorder it's been hard to just let it go. I have had a slight head ache and felt a little feverish tonight but I think it could just be a placebo effect.
They both think it's a simple spider bite or something along those lines.
What do you think?
Could this be a tick bite?
Sounds like a spider bite! The Bullseye is a symptom. More specifically a Brown Recluse Spider (or Desert Recluse).
It's actually the most dangerous spider in North America an it's venom is over 10 times more powerful than a rattle snake.
I got bit by the Desert Recluse and it wasn't much fun. (check out my answer on being bitten by a spider.)
If you can you should see a doctor. I didn't, but if the area continues to grow it can get really dangerous.
shell flower
After speaking to my parents about it they told me that it is too small to be a tick because they bloat as they take in blood. Since I have OCD and Anxiety Disorder it's been hard to just let it go. I have had a slight head ache and felt a little feverish tonight but I think it could just be a placebo effect.
They both think it's a simple spider bite or something along those lines.
What do you think?
Could this be a tick bite?
Sounds like a spider bite! The Bullseye is a symptom. More specifically a Brown Recluse Spider (or Desert Recluse).
It's actually the most dangerous spider in North America an it's venom is over 10 times more powerful than a rattle snake.
I got bit by the Desert Recluse and it wasn't much fun. (check out my answer on being bitten by a spider.)
If you can you should see a doctor. I didn't, but if the area continues to grow it can get really dangerous.
shell flower
HELP! I was raped..please help?
I'm 22 yr old male. At age of 14 I was raped in my boarding school. To this day I am suffering bcoz of that shocking experience. A 14 yr old innocent boy raped by a group of seniors. It was extremely humiliating %26amp; it has shattered my life. It's something so shameful that I could never tell it to anyone. Also I've a physically and emotionally abusive father. I am the only son. My only support is my mom. She has always been there for me %26amp; given me moral support %26amp; unconditional love. I share many personal matters with her because she's very understanding, friendly, and supportive person. But now she is suffering from cancer. The only thing I kept secret from her is this horrible thing in the past -rape. It is very shameful %26amp; I to this day I don't fell comfortable with my body. Meaning I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. I'm suffering emotionally. At 22 I secretly took psychatric treatment for post traumatic disorder. But sometimes I feel guilty for hiding frm mom. Should I tell her?
HELP! I was raped..please help?
Don't tell Mom, but get some professional help., you still need help. You really need to resolve this, or it will haunt you the rest of your file. There is nothing for you to be ashamed of you were the victim. You know, you could probably press charges against those guys, the odds are you were not the only person that it happened too.
Do not let these people continue to hurt you, they are not worth it. You deserve something better.
if you know any there names or where abouts, you may want to watch, they may be coming up in court on a sex abuse charge and you could be useful to testify against them. What better way to get even!
Reply:yes
Reply:Only you know your mum and how she will react.
Maybe she will think about you and not what she is suffering, but then again she maybe overwhelmed and not take it well - you will need to be the judge.
Do you go to church is there someone in church you can talk to, or if your mum is ill I am sur ethe hospital she is associated with would have a service for you to use to aid not only in what you have suffered in the past but the grief you will need to deal with when she passes. Ask at the hospital.
Reply:Nobody can answer this for you. We don't know your mother and can never really appreciate your relationship. My advice to you would be to talk to your Psychiatrist whom has been treating you and allow him/her to guide you to the best choice.
Other than that all I can offer is this: if you feel like sharing this with your mother will bring you comfort and bring the two of you closer than maybe you should.
You didnt mention if your mothers cancer was treatable or not. I would suggest thought that you wait until she has a chance to deal with her health issues and be there for her right now. Then someday when shes better or even just accepted her illness talk to her about your attack.
good luck
Reply:When i was under 5 my own father rapped me on many occastions i told my mom when i was about 5 n a half n it was the best thing i had ever done. Mothers are so undrstanding n loving n wat the worse thing to do is not to tell her n her finding out when she is at the harest part of her cancer. I am only 15 now but i am saying tell ur mom let her help u n her love will help u through this. I know wat u r feeling i felt like this till i was about 12 where i never liked me. But my mom helped me through it i went n saw a theripst n i have a school couniler n i have my mom so tell ur mom coz u will be so much better off. And about ur dad my dad was the same i used to get hit by him with belts n doors n my head hit against walls n floors even tho my dad has done this i have learned to forgive him. I hope this may help in anyway. If u want to talk at anytime e mail me at cass_030_791@yahho.com or coral_0307@hotmail.com
Reply:#1 Forgive yourself,because you were a victim. #2 keep it from your mom,coz she don't need the extra worry, she has enough on her plate. #3 Tell someone that loves you about your experience. And # 4 Forgive yourself all the guilt and depression,oryou will not be able to move on with your life. Women have been raped for generations, and that is what we have to do to survive the humiliation and guilt and disgust for people who take advantage and assault other human beings. I hope you will lean on God for all your needs coz if you take it to HIM He will bear it for you. Fight back and Don't Be A Victim
Reply:if your mom loves ya, she'll sit you down on a bed and hold ya while ya cry your eyes out......thats what i would want but then agian i have no idea how you feel even tho it sounds bad. Or maybe you guys could cry together. Best of luck, i hope your mother feels better, i will keep her in my prayers
Reply:If you asked he she would probably tell you that she would want to know, but some times even grown ups don't know what's best for them. Don't tell her now, it will upset her and make it harder for her to focus on her fight.
I'm glad you are getting treatment and I hope you know, even if you don't believe it yet, that what happned to you is not something for you to be ashamed of and that you are beautiful. Someday, when your mom is all better and you are ready you can bring her with you to therapy and tell her what happned.
Reply:I feel so terrible for you. I'm glad to hear you've sought some professional counseling. Did your psychiatrist feel that you'd come to terms with your past experiences? Because it sounds as if you haven't, and could use some more professional assistance. I doubt you'll find your answers here, unless someone else has been through the same things. Ignore the heartless comments from certain idiots who think they're being funny.
While I haven't been in your situation, my husband has, only he was raped between the ages of 5 and 7. Both of his parents were abusive, and he had only his sister for support (and she had issues of her own). It wasn't until he went through some extensive therapy (more than just a few sessions) that he was able to deal with the damage he'd suffered. Now he is a confident, warm, wonderful husband and father.
I can't tell you the right thing to do because everyone is different. If I were your mother, I'd want to know. I'd do anything to help and comfort my child. But depending on your mother's constitution and the severity of her illness, this information could make her feel worse. Or, maybe she'd rather know. Maybe you could bring it up with her in a roundabout way, like, "So Mom, if something bad happened to me that you couldn't change or fix, that happened a long time ago, would you want to know?" But unless a qualified, accredited psychologist or psychiatrist responds on this forum, I recommend you talk to a professional before you tell your mother.
Above all, please, please remember that you have nothing to be ashamed of. You have done nothing wrong. Your mother loves you, and I'm sure others love you as well. And in the future, you may learn to love yourself.
Just read your additional details. Do not keep it a secret for the rest of your life. I'm glad to hear your mom's on the road to recovery. Right now may not be the right time to tell her, but as she regains her strength, when she asks what's going on, tell her. It will help both of you to heal. Best of luck -- I care!
Reply:u should tell her. like in the scarlet letter, dimmesdale suffered more because he kept his sin a secret, than if he would have admitted it to society. in this case, ur not the one at fault but this trouble is really bothering u. u need to let it out. the first step in recovering is to openely express what has happened in the past instead of keepibng it bottle up and erupting like a bottle rocket.
Reply:ok, were you raped by senior guys or girls? just wondering....hmmmmm....well, honey.....I know it must be really hard for you because you are still scarred from what happened and I'm so incredibly sorry that happened to you.....well, I've always been an honest person and if something like that happened to me, I would definitely tell my mom.....in my opinion, I think she has a right to know.....I know she is ill right now and maybe you feel like you don't wanna tell her because it's gonna add more worries for her, but hey......you gotta do what you gotta do.....aren't you worried that you will never have the chance to ever tell her again? maybe this is a good opportunity to tell her....she is your mother.....and from what you wrote, she sounds like a kind, loving person......so I'm sure she'll understand and wonder why you never told her in the first place......and I REALLY ENCOURAGE you to pray to God and ask him to heal you from it.....yes, I am saying that with God, healing is possible and you can be free from this thing that's haunting you.....WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE........God can make the impossible POSSIBLE =D..........Let me give you an example, I've been reading books lately by JOYCE MEYER......she wrote in one of her books that she was sexually abused by her father when she was a young girl and that scarred her for so many years.........she ran into the wrong direction and made some bad choices and married the first man that showed interest in her........which was a mistake, of course..........and she always felt angry and had a lot of bitterness within her.......but then she met a Godly man and he taught her the healing and love of GOD..........so, yeah, you guessed it........she was healed..........I hope that you will do the same..........I hope I make sense...............and I know that it's easier said than done.........but I hope you ask God to give you the courage to tell your mom...........but I recommend talking to God first, then tell your mom............and best wishes to you and I hope you will be healed and move on with your life because God has a great plan for you.........you just gotta trust him........that's all........and as for those seniors that did that horrible thing to you, I know it's hard for you to forgive them, but it's important that you do........because if you don't, you will not be able to move forward.......just because you forgive someone doesn't mean that what they did was ok......it just means that you will let GOD handle the things they did and you can press on.........trust me, they will pay big time for what they did.......but as for you, ask God to give you strength and courage..........until then, God bless........and I hope and pray that my advice will be helpful to you..........
Reply:First, you did nothing wrong. You were at the wrong place at the right time and the others were wrong. You need more help than you can get from a place like this but it is a good start. You need to go to psychotic treatment and tell your councilor the truth. That's the only way that they can help you.
Next, if you were my son, I would want to know about what happened. I'm sure that your mother wants to help you and she can't do this if you don't open up to her. Also telling her should help you start to heal.
Last of all, an abusive father makes things worse for you. Your self esteem is already low and that makes the assault even harder on you. Just remember that's not your fault either.
I had a young relative who went through the same thing and had to read the books because she was talking to me so it's a problem that I felt I had to learn about. You have made the first step. You can that the next one. Remember you did nothing wrong and you're a good person.
Reply:You poor guy, what a horrible thing to happen. I'm sorry there are such foul people out there.
As to your Mum, if it were me, I would want my son to tell me. My illness would be secondary to my kids problems. My kids come first, so, I reckon, if your Mum is anything like me, she could handle this, and want desparately to help you with this terrible thing. Don't feel guilty for hiding this from her, explain your humilation at the time. Tell her.
You have to put it behind you though. So you need to get some kind of help. You can't deal with this alone, even if you told your Mum, you need professional care.
Reply:That's tough.
If your mom "knows" something is wrong, it will be hard on her not knowing, and hard on her knowing the truth.
You must decide what would hurt her most, personally as a parent the truth would hurt me more than a suspicion of a hurt.
You could show that you are strong and have built character of strength by just saying "mom" it was something from the past, and the past is just that, the past. What happened in the past does and will not define who I am, all is forgiven my transgressors.
I think that way she will know you will always be ok, that's what a parent wants, for their kids to always be ok, that when they have to leave, their kids will be ok.
If it bothers her "too much" to not know, then tell her, but set her up first by giving her the condfidence in you in that one bad moment in your life will not destroy your entire life, you move on to better things and discard the trash.
Reply:Well let me get my flashlight and I will take a look.
Reply:If you really want to hurt your Mom...tell her.
HELP! I was raped..please help?
Don't tell Mom, but get some professional help., you still need help. You really need to resolve this, or it will haunt you the rest of your file. There is nothing for you to be ashamed of you were the victim. You know, you could probably press charges against those guys, the odds are you were not the only person that it happened too.
Do not let these people continue to hurt you, they are not worth it. You deserve something better.
if you know any there names or where abouts, you may want to watch, they may be coming up in court on a sex abuse charge and you could be useful to testify against them. What better way to get even!
Reply:yes
Reply:Only you know your mum and how she will react.
Maybe she will think about you and not what she is suffering, but then again she maybe overwhelmed and not take it well - you will need to be the judge.
Do you go to church is there someone in church you can talk to, or if your mum is ill I am sur ethe hospital she is associated with would have a service for you to use to aid not only in what you have suffered in the past but the grief you will need to deal with when she passes. Ask at the hospital.
Reply:Nobody can answer this for you. We don't know your mother and can never really appreciate your relationship. My advice to you would be to talk to your Psychiatrist whom has been treating you and allow him/her to guide you to the best choice.
Other than that all I can offer is this: if you feel like sharing this with your mother will bring you comfort and bring the two of you closer than maybe you should.
You didnt mention if your mothers cancer was treatable or not. I would suggest thought that you wait until she has a chance to deal with her health issues and be there for her right now. Then someday when shes better or even just accepted her illness talk to her about your attack.
good luck
Reply:When i was under 5 my own father rapped me on many occastions i told my mom when i was about 5 n a half n it was the best thing i had ever done. Mothers are so undrstanding n loving n wat the worse thing to do is not to tell her n her finding out when she is at the harest part of her cancer. I am only 15 now but i am saying tell ur mom let her help u n her love will help u through this. I know wat u r feeling i felt like this till i was about 12 where i never liked me. But my mom helped me through it i went n saw a theripst n i have a school couniler n i have my mom so tell ur mom coz u will be so much better off. And about ur dad my dad was the same i used to get hit by him with belts n doors n my head hit against walls n floors even tho my dad has done this i have learned to forgive him. I hope this may help in anyway. If u want to talk at anytime e mail me at cass_030_791@yahho.com or coral_0307@hotmail.com
Reply:#1 Forgive yourself,because you were a victim. #2 keep it from your mom,coz she don't need the extra worry, she has enough on her plate. #3 Tell someone that loves you about your experience. And # 4 Forgive yourself all the guilt and depression,oryou will not be able to move on with your life. Women have been raped for generations, and that is what we have to do to survive the humiliation and guilt and disgust for people who take advantage and assault other human beings. I hope you will lean on God for all your needs coz if you take it to HIM He will bear it for you. Fight back and Don't Be A Victim
Reply:if your mom loves ya, she'll sit you down on a bed and hold ya while ya cry your eyes out......thats what i would want but then agian i have no idea how you feel even tho it sounds bad. Or maybe you guys could cry together. Best of luck, i hope your mother feels better, i will keep her in my prayers
Reply:If you asked he she would probably tell you that she would want to know, but some times even grown ups don't know what's best for them. Don't tell her now, it will upset her and make it harder for her to focus on her fight.
I'm glad you are getting treatment and I hope you know, even if you don't believe it yet, that what happned to you is not something for you to be ashamed of and that you are beautiful. Someday, when your mom is all better and you are ready you can bring her with you to therapy and tell her what happned.
Reply:I feel so terrible for you. I'm glad to hear you've sought some professional counseling. Did your psychiatrist feel that you'd come to terms with your past experiences? Because it sounds as if you haven't, and could use some more professional assistance. I doubt you'll find your answers here, unless someone else has been through the same things. Ignore the heartless comments from certain idiots who think they're being funny.
While I haven't been in your situation, my husband has, only he was raped between the ages of 5 and 7. Both of his parents were abusive, and he had only his sister for support (and she had issues of her own). It wasn't until he went through some extensive therapy (more than just a few sessions) that he was able to deal with the damage he'd suffered. Now he is a confident, warm, wonderful husband and father.
I can't tell you the right thing to do because everyone is different. If I were your mother, I'd want to know. I'd do anything to help and comfort my child. But depending on your mother's constitution and the severity of her illness, this information could make her feel worse. Or, maybe she'd rather know. Maybe you could bring it up with her in a roundabout way, like, "So Mom, if something bad happened to me that you couldn't change or fix, that happened a long time ago, would you want to know?" But unless a qualified, accredited psychologist or psychiatrist responds on this forum, I recommend you talk to a professional before you tell your mother.
Above all, please, please remember that you have nothing to be ashamed of. You have done nothing wrong. Your mother loves you, and I'm sure others love you as well. And in the future, you may learn to love yourself.
Just read your additional details. Do not keep it a secret for the rest of your life. I'm glad to hear your mom's on the road to recovery. Right now may not be the right time to tell her, but as she regains her strength, when she asks what's going on, tell her. It will help both of you to heal. Best of luck -- I care!
Reply:u should tell her. like in the scarlet letter, dimmesdale suffered more because he kept his sin a secret, than if he would have admitted it to society. in this case, ur not the one at fault but this trouble is really bothering u. u need to let it out. the first step in recovering is to openely express what has happened in the past instead of keepibng it bottle up and erupting like a bottle rocket.
Reply:ok, were you raped by senior guys or girls? just wondering....hmmmmm....well, honey.....I know it must be really hard for you because you are still scarred from what happened and I'm so incredibly sorry that happened to you.....well, I've always been an honest person and if something like that happened to me, I would definitely tell my mom.....in my opinion, I think she has a right to know.....I know she is ill right now and maybe you feel like you don't wanna tell her because it's gonna add more worries for her, but hey......you gotta do what you gotta do.....aren't you worried that you will never have the chance to ever tell her again? maybe this is a good opportunity to tell her....she is your mother.....and from what you wrote, she sounds like a kind, loving person......so I'm sure she'll understand and wonder why you never told her in the first place......and I REALLY ENCOURAGE you to pray to God and ask him to heal you from it.....yes, I am saying that with God, healing is possible and you can be free from this thing that's haunting you.....WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE........God can make the impossible POSSIBLE =D..........Let me give you an example, I've been reading books lately by JOYCE MEYER......she wrote in one of her books that she was sexually abused by her father when she was a young girl and that scarred her for so many years.........she ran into the wrong direction and made some bad choices and married the first man that showed interest in her........which was a mistake, of course..........and she always felt angry and had a lot of bitterness within her.......but then she met a Godly man and he taught her the healing and love of GOD..........so, yeah, you guessed it........she was healed..........I hope that you will do the same..........I hope I make sense...............and I know that it's easier said than done.........but I hope you ask God to give you the courage to tell your mom...........but I recommend talking to God first, then tell your mom............and best wishes to you and I hope you will be healed and move on with your life because God has a great plan for you.........you just gotta trust him........that's all........and as for those seniors that did that horrible thing to you, I know it's hard for you to forgive them, but it's important that you do........because if you don't, you will not be able to move forward.......just because you forgive someone doesn't mean that what they did was ok......it just means that you will let GOD handle the things they did and you can press on.........trust me, they will pay big time for what they did.......but as for you, ask God to give you strength and courage..........until then, God bless........and I hope and pray that my advice will be helpful to you..........
Reply:First, you did nothing wrong. You were at the wrong place at the right time and the others were wrong. You need more help than you can get from a place like this but it is a good start. You need to go to psychotic treatment and tell your councilor the truth. That's the only way that they can help you.
Next, if you were my son, I would want to know about what happened. I'm sure that your mother wants to help you and she can't do this if you don't open up to her. Also telling her should help you start to heal.
Last of all, an abusive father makes things worse for you. Your self esteem is already low and that makes the assault even harder on you. Just remember that's not your fault either.
I had a young relative who went through the same thing and had to read the books because she was talking to me so it's a problem that I felt I had to learn about. You have made the first step. You can that the next one. Remember you did nothing wrong and you're a good person.
Reply:You poor guy, what a horrible thing to happen. I'm sorry there are such foul people out there.
As to your Mum, if it were me, I would want my son to tell me. My illness would be secondary to my kids problems. My kids come first, so, I reckon, if your Mum is anything like me, she could handle this, and want desparately to help you with this terrible thing. Don't feel guilty for hiding this from her, explain your humilation at the time. Tell her.
You have to put it behind you though. So you need to get some kind of help. You can't deal with this alone, even if you told your Mum, you need professional care.
Reply:That's tough.
If your mom "knows" something is wrong, it will be hard on her not knowing, and hard on her knowing the truth.
You must decide what would hurt her most, personally as a parent the truth would hurt me more than a suspicion of a hurt.
You could show that you are strong and have built character of strength by just saying "mom" it was something from the past, and the past is just that, the past. What happened in the past does and will not define who I am, all is forgiven my transgressors.
I think that way she will know you will always be ok, that's what a parent wants, for their kids to always be ok, that when they have to leave, their kids will be ok.
If it bothers her "too much" to not know, then tell her, but set her up first by giving her the condfidence in you in that one bad moment in your life will not destroy your entire life, you move on to better things and discard the trash.
Reply:Well let me get my flashlight and I will take a look.
Reply:If you really want to hurt your Mom...tell her.
Help! I was raped..please help?
I'm 22 yr old male. At age of 14 I was raped in my boarding school. To this day I am suffering bcoz of that shocking experience. A 14 yr old innocent boy raped by a group of seniors. It was extremely humiliating %26amp; it has shattered my life. It's something so shameful that I could never tell it to anyone. Also I've a physically and emotionally abusive father. I am the only son. My only support is my mom. She has always been there for me %26amp; given me moral support %26amp; unconditional love. I share many personal matters with her because she's very understanding, friendly, and supportive person. But now she is suffering from cancer. The only thing I kept secret from her is this horrible thing in the past -rape. It is very shameful %26amp; I to this day I don't fell comfortable with my body. Meaning I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. I'm suffering emotionally. At 22 I secretly took psychatric treatment for post traumatic disorder. But sometimes I feel guilty for hiding frm mom. Should I tell her?
Help! I was raped..please help?
I am so sorry that you had such a horrible thing happened to you!
I understand that you may feel guilty for hiding such a thing from your mother but at this point, i don't think that the news would be good for her.
Trust me on this one... as a mother I can tell you that we all blame ourselves when such terrible things happen to our babies and she needs all of the emotional strength that she can muster right now.
I urge you to continue with counseling! The only people that should feel shame about what happened to you are the people that committed such a violent and degrading act against you!
Please continue to get professional help and just be there for your mom.
My heart goes out to you, good luck.
Reply:yes
Reply:Don't feel guilty, this is not something you should feel you have to tell anyone. I would highly recommend telling a councilor. If you need to talk look an this http://www.rapecrisis.com/ website. This is something you can not deal with alone. Promise me you will get help. Don't feel guilty, it's not your fault. Try http://www.lds.org also good luck. Hope your mom gets better.
Reply:if she isn't deteriorated to much and you have been able to talk to her about everything else then yeah but if she is not to well because of the cancer then it could quite easily make her worse so its up to you if you do or not
Reply:First of all, you have nothing to be ashamed of- you did nothing wrong. I commend you for speaking out here and talking about it. The question about telling your mother, do you want to tell her to unburden yourself? or because yu feel she needs to know? It is my belief that she sounds as though she loves you very much and has been very supportive to you, and you could tell her without fear of judgment. Parents want to help children and want to know about their pain so that they may ease it- even in times of their own crisis. It may help her to know why you have been troubled. Be there for her and support her. continue to seek therapy to talk about your fears, insecurities, and poor body image. Good Luck.
Reply:Sorry to hear about what you've gone thru, but, no I wouldn't tell her. She needs to be as positive as possible at this time. But, you know her best. I tried telling my mom I was gay and she didn't want to hear it so I just left it alone, she also had cancer and I saw no point in trying to force it on her. As for being raped, I was molested many times not raped but molested. It ruined my life. I did not suffer like you did in a violent manner but still did as much harm. I belive that is why I am gay today. Life sucks sometimes. You are still young I am 49 and have since learned to put it in the past. I have to, I am alive and can't let memories get in my way and ruin what's left of my life too. Good luck to you and I hope you learn a way to deal with this. If you need to talk you can e-mail me.
Reply:Man what a story. The violence is still with you and mom is not the issue--the real problem lies in letting go of what happened. Picture the seniors as bugs---they can be crushed. The dad problem ---is the same. Picture your problems as something that you can crush or sweep away. You can picture all that as often as possible. What purpose would telling mom serve?? Why burden this sick woman with a story like yours. At 22 you should move away as soon as your mom's issue gets taken care of. You are number one and your future depends on how well you take care of yourself. Good luck
Reply:WOW. First of all you need to know that it wasnt your fault. I think you should tell her if you feel its right. If you have a connection with your mother then she will probably help you through it. Thats a big secret to hold back.
Reply:that is a tough question... if you are serious and I will answer as if you are... If telling your mom is only going to help you,I would not..there is nothing she can do and it will hurt her tremendously and if as you say she has cancer she does not need the added stress. I truly am sorry for your pain..it must have been horrible to have been raped. But instead of telling your mom you need to go to counseling and maybe the police.... how many other innocent lives are the fu%$#ng A ss holes ruining?
I wish you the best....go find someone to talk to and be strong for your mom
Reply:I don't think you should tell her. I can hardly imagine how hurt she would be upon knowing the truth about what happened to you. However you can tell her if you feel uncomfortable in hiding it from her but I'm just afraid that she won't stop thinking about it and will eventually affect her illness.
If you decide not to tell her you should tell somebody whom you trust completely...maybe a best friend or a cousin? I think keeping it to yourself forever is potentially dangerous to your mental health. Taking psychiatric treatment is good because you definitely need help from a professional.
Are you a religious person? Cuz it really helps if for example you go to church and pray a lot seeking for more guidance for your future life. However, you have to realize 1 crucial thing: no matter what happened in your past, life goes on and I'm absolutely sure that in time you're going to be fine. Believe in yourself that you can go through all this. A lot of people out there suffer more badly than you so treasure every tiny little thing in your life and thank God for His blessings.
Don't forget to smile! :)
Reply:Talk of it and it will reduce with the rate that you think of it.Tell your Mama boy.
Reply:You went through a terrible trauma, but you cannot say it has shattered your life; you cannot let that happen to you. It will never go away 100% but you can still have a happy, healthy life. Please continue with therapy; it is so important. You have nothing to feel ashamed of; you did nothing wrong.
1) I don't think now is the time to tell your mom.
2) There is a book that I think is wonderful for crises and emotional burdens of all kinds. Please don't be put off by the title; its not just for women at all!! "Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know," by Barbara DeAngelis. It is just how to handle any crisis with strength; it is very good; easy to apply the wisdom to your own life. It changed the way I think. The bookstore can order it for you if they dont have it.
3) I know drs / Siddha Masters from India who come to the US a few times every year. They have herbs that are very, very good for people with cancer. The website is www.amritaveda.com. The herbs can be taken with other medication and chemo, its fine. They are very powerful for the immune system. These drs are unlike anything in the US; I highly recommend them; I have known them for years. My prayers are with you.
Reply:Whats eating you up inside is that you have not told anybody about this traumatic experience, and you've been dealing with this on your own since you were 14, that's 8 years of stress!!! If your not gonna tell your mom, reach out to counselors or a very close friend or family member, this will eat you up inside if you don't and your body will break down over time. You will never be able to grow physically , mentally and emotionally if you don't find help. Please find someone you can talk to about this.
Reply:You said that ur mom is understanding and stuff so go and tell her, let her help you.
Reply:i think you should discuss it with your mom,Maybe you are thinking that it would hurt her more because of her condition.she will understand why you kept it from her because this is not something that you can shout out.I can understand not feeling comfortable with yourself because it was not your choice but you will have to move on and in order to do that you must face all that you are trying to forget,
Reply:I'll tell you from my experience in almost being raped, don't show any interest whatsoever in what they are trying to do to you. Struggle at first to try to get them off to you, but don't try to continue to do so, if you can't get them off of you after about a minute. Don't look at them. I repeat do not look at them. Do not pretend like you are not looking at them. Do not give them any indication that they're there. Let your head go limp to the side and just let your body go completely limp without a care in the world. Once you feel them easing up on you, if they do, since you are not responding in terror (their pleasure) or with cries or helplessness (also their pleasure), spring up quickly. Then, once you spring up, look at their position. Don't run at first, because they can attack you again while you're thinking about getting away. Once you see their position, then, decide what to do.
This instinct I had the day that a guy tried to rape me, left him lying on a bed and me standing at the foot of the bed he was lying on.
Now, I've never told my parents what had happened to me that day. The only reason I haven't is because I was almost raped, not raped. If I had been raped, I would've told someone, as soon as possible, so that he couldn't get away.
I think by you hiding such an awful situation from your mom is explainable, but not beneficial to your healing. The seniors who raped you didn't just give you a wedgie or a titty-twister. They didn't just hang you by your pants on a hook in the school bathroom and laugh at you or call you names and let that be the end of it, they injected their genital organs into you against your will and refused to stop, when you asked them to. What they had done to you was not pull a senior prank on you, but commit a crime. So, I'd have to say, do what's in your best interest about the situation, but don't ever discount what happened to you that day. They were seniors, and what they did to you was not right.
Reply:i think not! coz she is now suffering from a severe disease and if you tell her then it might just add up to her pain coz she might blame herself for it for not taking care of you.on the other hand maybe yes coz shes now dying(no offense)she must know the truth so she'll be at peace. after telling her just say that your now okay and youve oercome the trauma. tell her to not blame herself coz its not her fault and past is past....(even if not)hope that the lord will guide you in your decisions.god bless to you and your mom.
Help! I was raped..please help?
I am so sorry that you had such a horrible thing happened to you!
I understand that you may feel guilty for hiding such a thing from your mother but at this point, i don't think that the news would be good for her.
Trust me on this one... as a mother I can tell you that we all blame ourselves when such terrible things happen to our babies and she needs all of the emotional strength that she can muster right now.
I urge you to continue with counseling! The only people that should feel shame about what happened to you are the people that committed such a violent and degrading act against you!
Please continue to get professional help and just be there for your mom.
My heart goes out to you, good luck.
Reply:yes
Reply:Don't feel guilty, this is not something you should feel you have to tell anyone. I would highly recommend telling a councilor. If you need to talk look an this http://www.rapecrisis.com/ website. This is something you can not deal with alone. Promise me you will get help. Don't feel guilty, it's not your fault. Try http://www.lds.org also good luck. Hope your mom gets better.
Reply:if she isn't deteriorated to much and you have been able to talk to her about everything else then yeah but if she is not to well because of the cancer then it could quite easily make her worse so its up to you if you do or not
Reply:First of all, you have nothing to be ashamed of- you did nothing wrong. I commend you for speaking out here and talking about it. The question about telling your mother, do you want to tell her to unburden yourself? or because yu feel she needs to know? It is my belief that she sounds as though she loves you very much and has been very supportive to you, and you could tell her without fear of judgment. Parents want to help children and want to know about their pain so that they may ease it- even in times of their own crisis. It may help her to know why you have been troubled. Be there for her and support her. continue to seek therapy to talk about your fears, insecurities, and poor body image. Good Luck.
Reply:Sorry to hear about what you've gone thru, but, no I wouldn't tell her. She needs to be as positive as possible at this time. But, you know her best. I tried telling my mom I was gay and she didn't want to hear it so I just left it alone, she also had cancer and I saw no point in trying to force it on her. As for being raped, I was molested many times not raped but molested. It ruined my life. I did not suffer like you did in a violent manner but still did as much harm. I belive that is why I am gay today. Life sucks sometimes. You are still young I am 49 and have since learned to put it in the past. I have to, I am alive and can't let memories get in my way and ruin what's left of my life too. Good luck to you and I hope you learn a way to deal with this. If you need to talk you can e-mail me.
Reply:Man what a story. The violence is still with you and mom is not the issue--the real problem lies in letting go of what happened. Picture the seniors as bugs---they can be crushed. The dad problem ---is the same. Picture your problems as something that you can crush or sweep away. You can picture all that as often as possible. What purpose would telling mom serve?? Why burden this sick woman with a story like yours. At 22 you should move away as soon as your mom's issue gets taken care of. You are number one and your future depends on how well you take care of yourself. Good luck
Reply:WOW. First of all you need to know that it wasnt your fault. I think you should tell her if you feel its right. If you have a connection with your mother then she will probably help you through it. Thats a big secret to hold back.
Reply:that is a tough question... if you are serious and I will answer as if you are... If telling your mom is only going to help you,I would not..there is nothing she can do and it will hurt her tremendously and if as you say she has cancer she does not need the added stress. I truly am sorry for your pain..it must have been horrible to have been raped. But instead of telling your mom you need to go to counseling and maybe the police.... how many other innocent lives are the fu%$#ng A ss holes ruining?
I wish you the best....go find someone to talk to and be strong for your mom
Reply:I don't think you should tell her. I can hardly imagine how hurt she would be upon knowing the truth about what happened to you. However you can tell her if you feel uncomfortable in hiding it from her but I'm just afraid that she won't stop thinking about it and will eventually affect her illness.
If you decide not to tell her you should tell somebody whom you trust completely...maybe a best friend or a cousin? I think keeping it to yourself forever is potentially dangerous to your mental health. Taking psychiatric treatment is good because you definitely need help from a professional.
Are you a religious person? Cuz it really helps if for example you go to church and pray a lot seeking for more guidance for your future life. However, you have to realize 1 crucial thing: no matter what happened in your past, life goes on and I'm absolutely sure that in time you're going to be fine. Believe in yourself that you can go through all this. A lot of people out there suffer more badly than you so treasure every tiny little thing in your life and thank God for His blessings.
Don't forget to smile! :)
Reply:Talk of it and it will reduce with the rate that you think of it.Tell your Mama boy.
Reply:You went through a terrible trauma, but you cannot say it has shattered your life; you cannot let that happen to you. It will never go away 100% but you can still have a happy, healthy life. Please continue with therapy; it is so important. You have nothing to feel ashamed of; you did nothing wrong.
1) I don't think now is the time to tell your mom.
2) There is a book that I think is wonderful for crises and emotional burdens of all kinds. Please don't be put off by the title; its not just for women at all!! "Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know," by Barbara DeAngelis. It is just how to handle any crisis with strength; it is very good; easy to apply the wisdom to your own life. It changed the way I think. The bookstore can order it for you if they dont have it.
3) I know drs / Siddha Masters from India who come to the US a few times every year. They have herbs that are very, very good for people with cancer. The website is www.amritaveda.com. The herbs can be taken with other medication and chemo, its fine. They are very powerful for the immune system. These drs are unlike anything in the US; I highly recommend them; I have known them for years. My prayers are with you.
Reply:Whats eating you up inside is that you have not told anybody about this traumatic experience, and you've been dealing with this on your own since you were 14, that's 8 years of stress!!! If your not gonna tell your mom, reach out to counselors or a very close friend or family member, this will eat you up inside if you don't and your body will break down over time. You will never be able to grow physically , mentally and emotionally if you don't find help. Please find someone you can talk to about this.
Reply:You said that ur mom is understanding and stuff so go and tell her, let her help you.
Reply:i think you should discuss it with your mom,Maybe you are thinking that it would hurt her more because of her condition.she will understand why you kept it from her because this is not something that you can shout out.I can understand not feeling comfortable with yourself because it was not your choice but you will have to move on and in order to do that you must face all that you are trying to forget,
Reply:I'll tell you from my experience in almost being raped, don't show any interest whatsoever in what they are trying to do to you. Struggle at first to try to get them off to you, but don't try to continue to do so, if you can't get them off of you after about a minute. Don't look at them. I repeat do not look at them. Do not pretend like you are not looking at them. Do not give them any indication that they're there. Let your head go limp to the side and just let your body go completely limp without a care in the world. Once you feel them easing up on you, if they do, since you are not responding in terror (their pleasure) or with cries or helplessness (also their pleasure), spring up quickly. Then, once you spring up, look at their position. Don't run at first, because they can attack you again while you're thinking about getting away. Once you see their position, then, decide what to do.
This instinct I had the day that a guy tried to rape me, left him lying on a bed and me standing at the foot of the bed he was lying on.
Now, I've never told my parents what had happened to me that day. The only reason I haven't is because I was almost raped, not raped. If I had been raped, I would've told someone, as soon as possible, so that he couldn't get away.
I think by you hiding such an awful situation from your mom is explainable, but not beneficial to your healing. The seniors who raped you didn't just give you a wedgie or a titty-twister. They didn't just hang you by your pants on a hook in the school bathroom and laugh at you or call you names and let that be the end of it, they injected their genital organs into you against your will and refused to stop, when you asked them to. What they had done to you was not pull a senior prank on you, but commit a crime. So, I'd have to say, do what's in your best interest about the situation, but don't ever discount what happened to you that day. They were seniors, and what they did to you was not right.
Reply:i think not! coz she is now suffering from a severe disease and if you tell her then it might just add up to her pain coz she might blame herself for it for not taking care of you.on the other hand maybe yes coz shes now dying(no offense)she must know the truth so she'll be at peace. after telling her just say that your now okay and youve oercome the trauma. tell her to not blame herself coz its not her fault and past is past....(even if not)hope that the lord will guide you in your decisions.god bless to you and your mom.
I've been feeling like death lately, what's wrong with me?
i just got better from a serious mental problem, obsessive compulsive disorder and varioius other mental problems, and i thought that this was caused by the mental problem before, but since im better and still like this, i don't know what's going on
im in university, so i study a lot, but i keep lying down on the bed at evenings or night and sometimes dont' wake up till the very early hour of next day and i didn't even brush my teeth and all that and i didn't even intend to go to bed, i just went lying for a few minutes or so
i've been having a lot of chronic physical illnesses, stomachache, headache, skin cuts(have skin problem originally), swelling of the lymph node(common when i get cold, but had mild constand cold until now from august), chest pain in the middle(the bone), dry coughs, and etc. since august
i also have hypothyroidism, this could be the cause, but im taking meds
i was feel like death these day, is that something physically wrong with me now?
I've been feeling like death lately, what's wrong with me?
If you were properly diagnosed by a licensed physician or psychologist as having OCD, you know that it is not something that you usually just get over. You most likely will need some sort of anti-anxiety medication to control the intrusive thought pattern.
Now it may be possible that you have a cold which you are fighting off and that the added stress is making it harder to get well. However, you may just be worrying over all of this so much that you literally are worrying yourself sick. If the doctor has run all the tests and there is nothing physically wrong with you, then you need to calm down a bit and go discuss your new symptoms with your psychologist/counselor/therapist.
Reply:You need to get outside and exercise...regularly
Reply:this is really serious... go to another doctor. like a psychologist or something.
Reply:If you live in Nyc i be your friend and we can hand-ouy maybe you won't feel so undead.
hope you 21 so we can PARTY EVERY FRAIDAY/SATURDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Um, I don't know if there's anything physically wrong with you but I'm definitely not a doctor.
Maybe you're worried about something. I dunno...those symptoms sound like you're all stressed about something. Good luck with dealing with this.
Reply:Tell this to a doctor instead of random people on yahoo.
Not to be rude, but a doctor would know more.
Get well soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!;-)
Reply:Hi Veggie Cake
THe body gives you signals (in this case, pain and skin issues) to let you know your internal balance isnt correct.
Look closely at the suggestions I make below (look at #4 especially), regardless of the health issue. If you do these steps below, you'll give the body time to heal the issue without having to digest meat. dairy, manmade chemicals, preservatives, etc.
Here is a list of important health topics people dont realize or take for granted and thus causes issues.
1. stress = most of it is self induced. Even thinking and actually talking about negative means you attact more negative energy. Visualize and "Feel" a healthy beautiful body (end result) and you'll have it before you know it.
Once the body breaks down from stress then its much easier to get sick or unhealthy for that matter.
Obviously exercise helps manages stress tremendously!
Remember what you focus on (negative or positive) is what you will attract in your life. This universal law is called "The Law of Attraction".
2. Lack of water. Drink a gallon of distilled water daily to hydrate the body and flush out the excess waste and toxins out of the blood.
3. Nutrition = this helps heal the body and will gives it energy to work on the internal issues. Mainly raw organic fruit and vegetables. If you only ate organic raw F %26amp; V for 7-10 days and drank distilled water you would see a change in your energy and be on your way to better health. Letting the body rest from digesting meats, dairy, and processed foods would do wonders for you.
4. clogged colon = Not eliminating the processed food and chemicals we eat every day will give anyone an illness and/or disease. If doctors we're actually taught this, our society would be much improved. DO a colon and liver cleanse to clear out excess waste and toxins in the blood. This will help heal any illness or disease.
go to naturalcures.com and get a free password and look up on ideas to heal your hypo as well.
Best of health to you
Reply:thyroid disorders can cause havoc in your body...and i would bet money on it that its all related to your thyroid....
Reply:Fighting in the Path of Allah with one's goods and soul. For Allah says, "O you who believe, shall I lead you to a merchandise which may deliver you from a painful chastisement? You shall believe in Allah and His Messenger, and struggle hard in Allah's Cause with your property and your lives; that is better for you, if you but knew! He will forgive you your sins and cause you to enter Gardens beneath which rivers flow, and goodly dwellings in Gardens of perpetuity; that is the mighty achievement." [61:10-12]
Repentance erases what came before it as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said, "The one who repents form sin is like the one who never sinned." (Sahih Al-Jami) And Allah says, "Except such as repent and believe and do good, these shall enter the Garden, and they shall not be dealt with unjustly in any way." [19:60]
im in university, so i study a lot, but i keep lying down on the bed at evenings or night and sometimes dont' wake up till the very early hour of next day and i didn't even brush my teeth and all that and i didn't even intend to go to bed, i just went lying for a few minutes or so
i've been having a lot of chronic physical illnesses, stomachache, headache, skin cuts(have skin problem originally), swelling of the lymph node(common when i get cold, but had mild constand cold until now from august), chest pain in the middle(the bone), dry coughs, and etc. since august
i also have hypothyroidism, this could be the cause, but im taking meds
i was feel like death these day, is that something physically wrong with me now?
I've been feeling like death lately, what's wrong with me?
If you were properly diagnosed by a licensed physician or psychologist as having OCD, you know that it is not something that you usually just get over. You most likely will need some sort of anti-anxiety medication to control the intrusive thought pattern.
Now it may be possible that you have a cold which you are fighting off and that the added stress is making it harder to get well. However, you may just be worrying over all of this so much that you literally are worrying yourself sick. If the doctor has run all the tests and there is nothing physically wrong with you, then you need to calm down a bit and go discuss your new symptoms with your psychologist/counselor/therapist.
Reply:You need to get outside and exercise...regularly
Reply:this is really serious... go to another doctor. like a psychologist or something.
Reply:If you live in Nyc i be your friend and we can hand-ouy maybe you won't feel so undead.
hope you 21 so we can PARTY EVERY FRAIDAY/SATURDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Um, I don't know if there's anything physically wrong with you but I'm definitely not a doctor.
Maybe you're worried about something. I dunno...those symptoms sound like you're all stressed about something. Good luck with dealing with this.
Reply:Tell this to a doctor instead of random people on yahoo.
Not to be rude, but a doctor would know more.
Get well soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!;-)
Reply:Hi Veggie Cake
THe body gives you signals (in this case, pain and skin issues) to let you know your internal balance isnt correct.
Look closely at the suggestions I make below (look at #4 especially), regardless of the health issue. If you do these steps below, you'll give the body time to heal the issue without having to digest meat. dairy, manmade chemicals, preservatives, etc.
Here is a list of important health topics people dont realize or take for granted and thus causes issues.
1. stress = most of it is self induced. Even thinking and actually talking about negative means you attact more negative energy. Visualize and "Feel" a healthy beautiful body (end result) and you'll have it before you know it.
Once the body breaks down from stress then its much easier to get sick or unhealthy for that matter.
Obviously exercise helps manages stress tremendously!
Remember what you focus on (negative or positive) is what you will attract in your life. This universal law is called "The Law of Attraction".
2. Lack of water. Drink a gallon of distilled water daily to hydrate the body and flush out the excess waste and toxins out of the blood.
3. Nutrition = this helps heal the body and will gives it energy to work on the internal issues. Mainly raw organic fruit and vegetables. If you only ate organic raw F %26amp; V for 7-10 days and drank distilled water you would see a change in your energy and be on your way to better health. Letting the body rest from digesting meats, dairy, and processed foods would do wonders for you.
4. clogged colon = Not eliminating the processed food and chemicals we eat every day will give anyone an illness and/or disease. If doctors we're actually taught this, our society would be much improved. DO a colon and liver cleanse to clear out excess waste and toxins in the blood. This will help heal any illness or disease.
go to naturalcures.com and get a free password and look up on ideas to heal your hypo as well.
Best of health to you
Reply:thyroid disorders can cause havoc in your body...and i would bet money on it that its all related to your thyroid....
Reply:Fighting in the Path of Allah with one's goods and soul. For Allah says, "O you who believe, shall I lead you to a merchandise which may deliver you from a painful chastisement? You shall believe in Allah and His Messenger, and struggle hard in Allah's Cause with your property and your lives; that is better for you, if you but knew! He will forgive you your sins and cause you to enter Gardens beneath which rivers flow, and goodly dwellings in Gardens of perpetuity; that is the mighty achievement." [61:10-12]
Repentance erases what came before it as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wasallam, said, "The one who repents form sin is like the one who never sinned." (Sahih Al-Jami) And Allah says, "Except such as repent and believe and do good, these shall enter the Garden, and they shall not be dealt with unjustly in any way." [19:60]
Abdominal pain for 4 weeks accompanied with emesia and diarrhea--To request etiological factor and treatment?
A 57-year-old male was admitted to our hospital on May 4th ,2007 for abdominal pain for four weeks accompanied with emesia and diarrhea. The clinical findings are listed in Table 1.
Past medical history and general state of health:
The patient’s past medical history was significant for spinal stenosis about two years ago, accompanied with the symmetry pain of limbs arthrosis for one year. He denied other systemic diseases and any surgical history, as well as family history of genetic disorder. Before the onset of the disease ,the patient had the history of exposure to a small amount of acetone(He is a aircraft mechanic). He denied the history of exposure to special food ,drug and toxicant.
Since the pathogenesis , the patient has no fever and night sweat, no skin petechia and skin rashes .There is a 2.5 kg weight loss recently.
Medical examination:
Left lower quadrant and superior belly had scattered tendernesses, no rebound tenderness. Other examinations were negative.
Table 1 Clinical manifestations of the patient:
Main clinical manifestations abdominal pain : Started left lower abdomen pain ,and then emerging superior belly pain, accompanied with nausea
frequent emesia : Vomiting after eating a little food, and Vomitus were a small amount of stomach contents
chronic diarrhea : watery stool, and there were no mucus ,pus and blood in the stool. More than 10 times a day ,and the quantity of toties quoties was 50-100ml.
Laboratory positive findings Blood routine---WBCC:7.8*109/L, Lymphocyte Percentage:10%, neutrophils Percentage:84.5%, Eosinophil count:0.6*109/L;
Albumin: 31-33g/L, prealbumin:142mg/L; blood calcium: 1.97-2.02mmol/L , blood phosphonium: 0.80-0.97mmol/L ,PTH:174ng/L, Calcitionin:3.4ng/L ;
blood sedimentation: 24mm/h, Ferritin: 924.9ng/mL;
Anti-SS-A:+, ANA:+++, Alexine C3:0.77g/L,CRP 36.6mg/L ; Serum transferrin: 1.97g/L;
Urine protein:+, Quantitation of Urine protein in 24h: Microamount albumen 196mg/L, Transferrin 11.1mg/L, Microglobulin 41.2 mg/L , IgG 31.3mg/L. Stool smear:a little Capsule protozoon；
Endoscopy findings Coloscope showed that mucous membranes of colon and rectum had extensive dropsy, as well as rectal scattered anabrosis.
Gastroscope showed superficial gastritis , accompanied with anabrosis.
Image findings Computer tomography (CT) of epigastric zone showing edema of gastric wall and duodenal wall, right pleural effusion, seroperitoneum and bilateral hydronephrosis ;
Computer tomography (CT) of hypogastric zone showing thickening and edema of the part small intestine, ascending colon, sigmoid colon and rectum, furthermore , abnormal thickening of Bladder wall left; Computer tomography (CT) of chest showing right pleural effusion;
B ultrasonic of glandula thyreoidea showing a mixed tumor and a solid tumor on the right, furthermore ,a left thyroid nodules .
MRI of glandula thyreoidea showing multiple innocuousness nodules in right thyroid
ECT of epithelial body showing no obviously abnormal.
Pathological findings Rectal chronic inflammation
Other examinations (such as stool routine , stool culture ,tuberculin test, hepar and renal function, thyroid function, tumor markers, prothrombin time, HIV TPPA TRUST ,rheumatoid factor, anti-O, IgA E G M, C4 CH50 CIC, dsDNA anti-SS-B anti-SM, ACLA ,ANCA and B ultrasonic of the heart) were all negative.
To the treat and turnover:
After admission, we gave the patient the treatment of restrain acidum （Losec）, anti-inflammatory（Ceftriaxone and metronidazole）and nutritional support. But the patient’s pathogenetic condition didn’t take a favorable turn. Since May 10th , we have given the patient hormone therapy---300mg hydrocortisone iv gtt qd. Currently , the patient still has abdominal pain and diarrhea.
To request:
1. to diagnose: about the etiological factor and etiopathogenisis
2.to treat: such as some better therapeutic regimens and some precious clinic experience
Abdominal pain for 4 weeks accompanied with emesia and diarrhea--To request etiological factor and treatment?
Interesting case, but perhaps this would be more appropriate for posting in the infectious disease section. Your description of a gastroenteritis picture and stool cultures showing a parasite (protozoan?) seems to indicate this. A few of your terms are foreign to me (rectum "dropsy" and "anabrosis"). Also your description of a diffuse inflammation and pleurisy is also unusual and a very systemic manifestation of this disease. You might consider tapping these effusions and/or laparoscopy?
alstroemeria
Past medical history and general state of health:
The patient’s past medical history was significant for spinal stenosis about two years ago, accompanied with the symmetry pain of limbs arthrosis for one year. He denied other systemic diseases and any surgical history, as well as family history of genetic disorder. Before the onset of the disease ,the patient had the history of exposure to a small amount of acetone(He is a aircraft mechanic). He denied the history of exposure to special food ,drug and toxicant.
Since the pathogenesis , the patient has no fever and night sweat, no skin petechia and skin rashes .There is a 2.5 kg weight loss recently.
Medical examination:
Left lower quadrant and superior belly had scattered tendernesses, no rebound tenderness. Other examinations were negative.
Table 1 Clinical manifestations of the patient:
Main clinical manifestations abdominal pain : Started left lower abdomen pain ,and then emerging superior belly pain, accompanied with nausea
frequent emesia : Vomiting after eating a little food, and Vomitus were a small amount of stomach contents
chronic diarrhea : watery stool, and there were no mucus ,pus and blood in the stool. More than 10 times a day ,and the quantity of toties quoties was 50-100ml.
Laboratory positive findings Blood routine---WBCC:7.8*109/L, Lymphocyte Percentage:10%, neutrophils Percentage:84.5%, Eosinophil count:0.6*109/L;
Albumin: 31-33g/L, prealbumin:142mg/L; blood calcium: 1.97-2.02mmol/L , blood phosphonium: 0.80-0.97mmol/L ,PTH:174ng/L, Calcitionin:3.4ng/L ;
blood sedimentation: 24mm/h, Ferritin: 924.9ng/mL;
Anti-SS-A:+, ANA:+++, Alexine C3:0.77g/L,CRP 36.6mg/L ; Serum transferrin: 1.97g/L;
Urine protein:+, Quantitation of Urine protein in 24h: Microamount albumen 196mg/L, Transferrin 11.1mg/L, Microglobulin 41.2 mg/L , IgG 31.3mg/L. Stool smear:a little Capsule protozoon；
Endoscopy findings Coloscope showed that mucous membranes of colon and rectum had extensive dropsy, as well as rectal scattered anabrosis.
Gastroscope showed superficial gastritis , accompanied with anabrosis.
Image findings Computer tomography (CT) of epigastric zone showing edema of gastric wall and duodenal wall, right pleural effusion, seroperitoneum and bilateral hydronephrosis ;
Computer tomography (CT) of hypogastric zone showing thickening and edema of the part small intestine, ascending colon, sigmoid colon and rectum, furthermore , abnormal thickening of Bladder wall left; Computer tomography (CT) of chest showing right pleural effusion;
B ultrasonic of glandula thyreoidea showing a mixed tumor and a solid tumor on the right, furthermore ,a left thyroid nodules .
MRI of glandula thyreoidea showing multiple innocuousness nodules in right thyroid
ECT of epithelial body showing no obviously abnormal.
Pathological findings Rectal chronic inflammation
Other examinations (such as stool routine , stool culture ,tuberculin test, hepar and renal function, thyroid function, tumor markers, prothrombin time, HIV TPPA TRUST ,rheumatoid factor, anti-O, IgA E G M, C4 CH50 CIC, dsDNA anti-SS-B anti-SM, ACLA ,ANCA and B ultrasonic of the heart) were all negative.
To the treat and turnover:
After admission, we gave the patient the treatment of restrain acidum （Losec）, anti-inflammatory（Ceftriaxone and metronidazole）and nutritional support. But the patient’s pathogenetic condition didn’t take a favorable turn. Since May 10th , we have given the patient hormone therapy---300mg hydrocortisone iv gtt qd. Currently , the patient still has abdominal pain and diarrhea.
To request:
1. to diagnose: about the etiological factor and etiopathogenisis
2.to treat: such as some better therapeutic regimens and some precious clinic experience
Abdominal pain for 4 weeks accompanied with emesia and diarrhea--To request etiological factor and treatment?
Interesting case, but perhaps this would be more appropriate for posting in the infectious disease section. Your description of a gastroenteritis picture and stool cultures showing a parasite (protozoan?) seems to indicate this. A few of your terms are foreign to me (rectum "dropsy" and "anabrosis"). Also your description of a diffuse inflammation and pleurisy is also unusual and a very systemic manifestation of this disease. You might consider tapping these effusions and/or laparoscopy?
alstroemeria
I have several large scars from picking, what kind of procedures can remove them?
I used to get sores on my skin and really pick at them badly. It left very unsightly scars. They look like large craters in my skin. A couple are on my buttocks, one is on my back and I have smaller "craters" on my face. It really hurts because I am otherwise attractive. I suffered from body dysmorphic disorder which made me pick becaue I thought I was removing blemishes that were very small or not even there. I have since then addressed this mental health issue. What kind of procedures are there? How expensive are they? How painful are they (and can they use anethesia or strong painkillers)? And is it easier to remove in certain areas than others? Please help with any info. you have. This is really ruining my self-esteem.
I have several large scars from picking, what kind of procedures can remove them?
ouc an try micro derm. They are expensive but worked for me. Or you can try dermabrasion. They are a sure shot for removing the scars but they need you to be out of the society for 1 week or so cause they literally remove the upper layer of your skin. You could try laser surgery or even chemical peels. But again it all depends on your skin tone. So talk to a dermatologist for this. Also do lots of research for it before you go ahead with it. I was not suggested any of those cause I have dark skin and there is a chance of hyper pigmentation with any of those methods. Good luck.
Reply:Try Mederma. It's been heplful to many folks with scarring issues.
I have several large scars from picking, what kind of procedures can remove them?
ouc an try micro derm. They are expensive but worked for me. Or you can try dermabrasion. They are a sure shot for removing the scars but they need you to be out of the society for 1 week or so cause they literally remove the upper layer of your skin. You could try laser surgery or even chemical peels. But again it all depends on your skin tone. So talk to a dermatologist for this. Also do lots of research for it before you go ahead with it. I was not suggested any of those cause I have dark skin and there is a chance of hyper pigmentation with any of those methods. Good luck.
Reply:Try Mederma. It's been heplful to many folks with scarring issues.
Betta Fish died, and I don't know why.?
I thought my Betta had a fungal infection; he had purple-reddish patches on his gills, cotton-like strands on his fins, was refusing to eat, and had a swollen belly. I was adding BettaMax daily from 4 days ago, but today he had an enormously swollen belly, was just hanging out at the top, barely moving. Also, he'd been gulping for air, but the air was just slipping out of his gills in a big bubble. I checked for velvet, but I didn't see any gold-ish patches on his skin, except for this small dots on his gills that also looked red.
He was also swimming funky, kind of on his side. I thought it was swim bladder disorder, but apparently this clears up on its own? But bad news. This afternoon, I found him lying at the bottom covered in what looked like dry (human) skin with mildly raised scales on his stomach, which looked like it had expanded twice its size in about an hour. Not responding to anything... poking, prodding, movement from tank to another tank. What did he die of? Thank you.
Betta Fish died, and I don't know why.?
oh man, I'm sorry your betta died. My betta of three years passed this summer, and I was a bit bummed out, too. He has a good little guy.
The patches on the gills, were they never there before? If not, you've described something akin to septicemia, which is bacterial. The swollen belly does sound like swim bladder, but with every symptom you've described, it could also be dropsy. Dropsy results in the scales sticking out like you mentioned.
I don't know if this is completely accurate, but I've seen it in other fishes I had that I had overfed, and had fed too strict of a diet.
I don't know if this would help you in the future, but I suggest using Hikari betta pellets as the main food, and try to fast your betta one day out of the week (or give him only a pellet or two if you can't stand it - I have to, too) and check your local pet store for good, frozen larvae to suppliment. Or give him a swatted fly once a week. The food issue is very important with fish. I've noticed that mine live longer if I don't over feed. The swollen belly could also be fatty deposits or liver problems due to over feeding.
For the future, I have two medicines for you to keep in mind. Kanamycin and Neomycin from Seachem chemicals. You can order them from thatfishplace dot com for the best price. They attack negative and positive strains of bacteria. I'd also keep Melafix and Pimafix on hand. Great things.
Even though Bettamax is made for bettas, the above-mentioned anti-bacterial agents are extremely strong, gentl to all plants and fish, and can be used in small and large tanks. Best wishes.
I hope someone else who has much better betta knowledge than I do contributes, because it's always nice to learn from people who have more experience.
Reply:Do you use bottled distilled water in his bowl? My sister did and thats what killed hers...I know it sounds silly, but she thought she was doing the fish a favor by not putting him in Cleveland tap water! Oh well...
Reply:He might have died of parasites becauese you said he has long stringy things. Were they whitish or clearish? I'm sorry for your loss :(
Reply:sounds like dropsy -- did you clean his water frequently? its really better to just give him clean water than add medication -- i thought bettamax isn't even supposed to be sold anymore because its just a bunch of stuff trying to cure everything in one bottle which is really stressful on the fish.
Reply:What was the water temp? If not high enough, this may have been the initial cause of his problems. Also, were you doing water changes. If kept in a bowl, this is especially important.
He was also swimming funky, kind of on his side. I thought it was swim bladder disorder, but apparently this clears up on its own? But bad news. This afternoon, I found him lying at the bottom covered in what looked like dry (human) skin with mildly raised scales on his stomach, which looked like it had expanded twice its size in about an hour. Not responding to anything... poking, prodding, movement from tank to another tank. What did he die of? Thank you.
Betta Fish died, and I don't know why.?
oh man, I'm sorry your betta died. My betta of three years passed this summer, and I was a bit bummed out, too. He has a good little guy.
The patches on the gills, were they never there before? If not, you've described something akin to septicemia, which is bacterial. The swollen belly does sound like swim bladder, but with every symptom you've described, it could also be dropsy. Dropsy results in the scales sticking out like you mentioned.
I don't know if this is completely accurate, but I've seen it in other fishes I had that I had overfed, and had fed too strict of a diet.
I don't know if this would help you in the future, but I suggest using Hikari betta pellets as the main food, and try to fast your betta one day out of the week (or give him only a pellet or two if you can't stand it - I have to, too) and check your local pet store for good, frozen larvae to suppliment. Or give him a swatted fly once a week. The food issue is very important with fish. I've noticed that mine live longer if I don't over feed. The swollen belly could also be fatty deposits or liver problems due to over feeding.
For the future, I have two medicines for you to keep in mind. Kanamycin and Neomycin from Seachem chemicals. You can order them from thatfishplace dot com for the best price. They attack negative and positive strains of bacteria. I'd also keep Melafix and Pimafix on hand. Great things.
Even though Bettamax is made for bettas, the above-mentioned anti-bacterial agents are extremely strong, gentl to all plants and fish, and can be used in small and large tanks. Best wishes.
I hope someone else who has much better betta knowledge than I do contributes, because it's always nice to learn from people who have more experience.
Reply:Do you use bottled distilled water in his bowl? My sister did and thats what killed hers...I know it sounds silly, but she thought she was doing the fish a favor by not putting him in Cleveland tap water! Oh well...
Reply:He might have died of parasites becauese you said he has long stringy things. Were they whitish or clearish? I'm sorry for your loss :(
Reply:sounds like dropsy -- did you clean his water frequently? its really better to just give him clean water than add medication -- i thought bettamax isn't even supposed to be sold anymore because its just a bunch of stuff trying to cure everything in one bottle which is really stressful on the fish.
Reply:What was the water temp? If not high enough, this may have been the initial cause of his problems. Also, were you doing water changes. If kept in a bowl, this is especially important.
Dating questions for the ladies ONLY please!?
I have posted questions in here and around the internet in forums, questions about my penis size. I had surgery to remove some skin of my penis due to Peyronie’s disease (I’ll write a bit about the disease at the bottom of this question for those who are wondering what Peyronie’s disease is). Unfortunately, one of the side effects of the surgery is that it shortens your penis, somewhat equivalent to about the same amount of skin they remove. I went from having 7” long by 5” circumference penis, down to 4 5/8” long by 6” circumference. Which is kinda funny since before I was above average in length (7”and above is consider above average*) but average in circumference, now I’m bellow average in length (bellow 5“ is consider “small“*), to above average in circumference.
The answers that I’ve received from women around the internet is that my penis is too small, but that it’s not the size that matters it‘s how you use it. May it is true that it’s more about the movement of the waves and not about the size of the ocean, but if you have very little experience moving those waves with women and you have a small ocean, then I guess that those waves are not going to move too well, are they?
Based on the fact that I have a small penis and that size does matter to quite a few women, some more than others, should I tell women about my “problem” while we are dating, before the relationship gets serious? Obviously not during the first date. I feel that anything that could become a problem in the relationship should be talked about before things get too serious. I personally know a couple of women who have told me that they would not want a man with my size. One told me straight out that I was too small for her and that she prefers them big. If I didn’t know this woman and we started dating, and we felt in love, I think that sooner or later my size would become an issue. I know that some of you may say “well, if she loves you, she won’t care…” It’s true up to a point, may be at the beginning it might be true, but we all know that the pretty much all couple will come down from their “love hi” sooner or later. That’s not to say that they stop loving each other, but that the natural hi of being in love ends sooner or later leaving a different type of love. During that stage of the relationship, issues that were not problems before can become problems.
I know that there’s more to a relationship than sex, but it is huge! I while back ago I read something that a marriage counselor wrote that really stuck with me. She said “I’ve seen more couples breaking up due to bad or no sex, than for any other cause.”
So, should I talk about it before it gets too serious? When is the right time to bring it up and how? I think that once you are start developing feelings for each might be too, is it? As a women, would you want a man to be honest about it if you were dating? Obviously if size doesn’t matter to you, then you wouldn’t care, but if it did, then what? Would you want to get emotionally involved with a man to later realized that he was not up to your “standards?” I think that honesty is important not just once you’ve fallen in love, but before as well.
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Peyronie's disease is a rare connective tissue disorder involving the growth of fibrous plaques in the soft tissue of the penis affecting as much as 1% of men. The exact cause is not known, although it is thought to be caused by injury to the internal cavity of the penis, which results in bleeding and later scar tissue formation at the tunica albuginea of the corpora cavernosa.
*Average based on information acquired from studies and surveys such as the Kinsey Sex Institute study, Richard Edwards' Definitive Penis Size Survey, the Durex Survey, and the Lifestyles Condom Co. survey, to name a few.
Dating questions for the ladies ONLY please!?
honestly a man can be too small, but he can also be too big. One that is too large can be painful in certain positions, so at least you don't have that worry. But just learn to please her orally and trust me, she'll forget all about everything else.
Reply:that i nice size dick well i can help u out see if u can send a picture 2 me at dadymissu@yahoo.com or timbabygirl@hotmail.com Report It
Reply:im sorry. i wish i could help u. im sure u r very nice, and anyone that wouldnt date u because of ur problem has their own problem. : )
Reply:why dont you get a life instead of writing a million page long question? nobody is gonna read the whole thing... give it up ur dick is teeny weeny
Reply:For goodness sake its just a penis! You are focusing way to much on your body part. So what if its small, if women see your confident they wont be so bothered by it if your not. Go on with your life and stop obsessing over it!! Seriously, just enjoy life!
Reply:Hunni, in my opinion. I would think it would be the best thing to be honest and direct if you thinking that the relationship could progress to the next level. Honestly I have never cared about a mans size and as far as experience goes. I believe that once u put 2 different people in a situation, does not matter how much experieince you have. Every person is different, what works for one couple may not work for another.
Communication is the key to any relationship including a sexual one. i agree with what the therapist said about more marriages breaking up over sex.
So I guess what my point is that if I was in a dating situation with you, I would appreciate you being honest and upfront with me. Though it would not matter to me what size you were. We could have fun seeing what worked for us. anyways hunni, I wish you the best in the dating world, and I hope you find the right lady...
Reply:if anyone wont get serious with you because of that they are not worth your time.
trust me hun, if shes worth it, shell like you and EVERYTHING about you.
=]
best of luck.
Reply:sorry for the jerks on here!!!! maybe try to learn some of the other pleasure point such as oral or massage to make up for size. also when you connect with someone truely you'll find that the sensation is nice but not all, you will look into each others eyes and cry with the love you feel and that alone will make you both sex gods to each other. dont give up she is out there and when the time comes to tell her about your health she will wrap her arms around you like no other. good luck
Reply:When things start to get emotional or physical, to the point that you think there's a chance that you could get more serious, is probably when you need to tell her. Get her into a conversation about her life experiences, you know the basic stuff, (ie my mom had... or my sister...or I had surgery...) Just basically getting to know all about each other and your life experiences. This will make it a lot easier to tell her, and will be the most comfortable means of approaching the situation without seeming self-conscious. The last thing you want her to see is that you are vulnerable or embarrassed by it. Things happen in life that are beyond our control. Women understand this a lot better than men. She'll probably say something like "oh god, that's aweful, are you okay, that must have been horrible" In response to this say something like "Naw, it's okay, it was no big deal, I'm fine, all it did was..." and then tell her about it. But make sure you seem confident about yourself. Just act like it was a tiny pebble in your shoe that you just had to drop out. NO BIG DEAL!! If she likes you and if she's at all worthy of being your woman, then she won't care. If she cares, better to find out now before you get in too deep and get hurt over it. Also remember, sex may be a big part of a relationship, but emotional and mental connections also affect the quality of sex. You'll know if it's right when the time comes. Try not to be so self-conscious about it. If you're not happy by yourself and with yourself, you're not going to change that and become happy with someone else or even make anyone else happy. Peace comes from within. Be happy with yourself and your life, and great things are sure to come. Good luck!!!
Reply:This is not meant as a dis...but you need psychological counseling. Your disease is really affecting your head. (no pun intended)
Whoever dates you does so because they like YOU. Relax and accept it. Should things get advanced and she asks you about it..then tell her. DON'T VOLUNTEER anything. You'll just scare her. She'll think its worse than you are volunteering....
If she doesn't like you because of it (which sounds bizarre) then find someone else...
The answers that I’ve received from women around the internet is that my penis is too small, but that it’s not the size that matters it‘s how you use it. May it is true that it’s more about the movement of the waves and not about the size of the ocean, but if you have very little experience moving those waves with women and you have a small ocean, then I guess that those waves are not going to move too well, are they?
Based on the fact that I have a small penis and that size does matter to quite a few women, some more than others, should I tell women about my “problem” while we are dating, before the relationship gets serious? Obviously not during the first date. I feel that anything that could become a problem in the relationship should be talked about before things get too serious. I personally know a couple of women who have told me that they would not want a man with my size. One told me straight out that I was too small for her and that she prefers them big. If I didn’t know this woman and we started dating, and we felt in love, I think that sooner or later my size would become an issue. I know that some of you may say “well, if she loves you, she won’t care…” It’s true up to a point, may be at the beginning it might be true, but we all know that the pretty much all couple will come down from their “love hi” sooner or later. That’s not to say that they stop loving each other, but that the natural hi of being in love ends sooner or later leaving a different type of love. During that stage of the relationship, issues that were not problems before can become problems.
I know that there’s more to a relationship than sex, but it is huge! I while back ago I read something that a marriage counselor wrote that really stuck with me. She said “I’ve seen more couples breaking up due to bad or no sex, than for any other cause.”
So, should I talk about it before it gets too serious? When is the right time to bring it up and how? I think that once you are start developing feelings for each might be too, is it? As a women, would you want a man to be honest about it if you were dating? Obviously if size doesn’t matter to you, then you wouldn’t care, but if it did, then what? Would you want to get emotionally involved with a man to later realized that he was not up to your “standards?” I think that honesty is important not just once you’ve fallen in love, but before as well.
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Peyronie's disease is a rare connective tissue disorder involving the growth of fibrous plaques in the soft tissue of the penis affecting as much as 1% of men. The exact cause is not known, although it is thought to be caused by injury to the internal cavity of the penis, which results in bleeding and later scar tissue formation at the tunica albuginea of the corpora cavernosa.
*Average based on information acquired from studies and surveys such as the Kinsey Sex Institute study, Richard Edwards' Definitive Penis Size Survey, the Durex Survey, and the Lifestyles Condom Co. survey, to name a few.
Dating questions for the ladies ONLY please!?
honestly a man can be too small, but he can also be too big. One that is too large can be painful in certain positions, so at least you don't have that worry. But just learn to please her orally and trust me, she'll forget all about everything else.
Reply:that i nice size dick well i can help u out see if u can send a picture 2 me at dadymissu@yahoo.com or timbabygirl@hotmail.com Report It
Reply:im sorry. i wish i could help u. im sure u r very nice, and anyone that wouldnt date u because of ur problem has their own problem. : )
Reply:why dont you get a life instead of writing a million page long question? nobody is gonna read the whole thing... give it up ur dick is teeny weeny
Reply:For goodness sake its just a penis! You are focusing way to much on your body part. So what if its small, if women see your confident they wont be so bothered by it if your not. Go on with your life and stop obsessing over it!! Seriously, just enjoy life!
Reply:Hunni, in my opinion. I would think it would be the best thing to be honest and direct if you thinking that the relationship could progress to the next level. Honestly I have never cared about a mans size and as far as experience goes. I believe that once u put 2 different people in a situation, does not matter how much experieince you have. Every person is different, what works for one couple may not work for another.
Communication is the key to any relationship including a sexual one. i agree with what the therapist said about more marriages breaking up over sex.
So I guess what my point is that if I was in a dating situation with you, I would appreciate you being honest and upfront with me. Though it would not matter to me what size you were. We could have fun seeing what worked for us. anyways hunni, I wish you the best in the dating world, and I hope you find the right lady...
Reply:if anyone wont get serious with you because of that they are not worth your time.
trust me hun, if shes worth it, shell like you and EVERYTHING about you.
=]
best of luck.
Reply:sorry for the jerks on here!!!! maybe try to learn some of the other pleasure point such as oral or massage to make up for size. also when you connect with someone truely you'll find that the sensation is nice but not all, you will look into each others eyes and cry with the love you feel and that alone will make you both sex gods to each other. dont give up she is out there and when the time comes to tell her about your health she will wrap her arms around you like no other. good luck
Reply:When things start to get emotional or physical, to the point that you think there's a chance that you could get more serious, is probably when you need to tell her. Get her into a conversation about her life experiences, you know the basic stuff, (ie my mom had... or my sister...or I had surgery...) Just basically getting to know all about each other and your life experiences. This will make it a lot easier to tell her, and will be the most comfortable means of approaching the situation without seeming self-conscious. The last thing you want her to see is that you are vulnerable or embarrassed by it. Things happen in life that are beyond our control. Women understand this a lot better than men. She'll probably say something like "oh god, that's aweful, are you okay, that must have been horrible" In response to this say something like "Naw, it's okay, it was no big deal, I'm fine, all it did was..." and then tell her about it. But make sure you seem confident about yourself. Just act like it was a tiny pebble in your shoe that you just had to drop out. NO BIG DEAL!! If she likes you and if she's at all worthy of being your woman, then she won't care. If she cares, better to find out now before you get in too deep and get hurt over it. Also remember, sex may be a big part of a relationship, but emotional and mental connections also affect the quality of sex. You'll know if it's right when the time comes. Try not to be so self-conscious about it. If you're not happy by yourself and with yourself, you're not going to change that and become happy with someone else or even make anyone else happy. Peace comes from within. Be happy with yourself and your life, and great things are sure to come. Good luck!!!
Reply:This is not meant as a dis...but you need psychological counseling. Your disease is really affecting your head. (no pun intended)
Whoever dates you does so because they like YOU. Relax and accept it. Should things get advanced and she asks you about it..then tell her. DON'T VOLUNTEER anything. You'll just scare her. She'll think its worse than you are volunteering....
If she doesn't like you because of it (which sounds bizarre) then find someone else...
Why do people think people with ADHD are "retarded?"?
Help me out here. I know someone with the mental disorder, and she acts "different", but she is ranked third in her class, thanks to her good grades. But she is sometimes harassed by people who call her a "retard" because of her ADHD, "big" because of her 5"11, 180 lb. frame, and "ugly" because of her acne scars that are riddled across her entire face because she has bad skin problems. I am the ONLY person she turns to when she's down, and I always tell off people who make fun of her. I love this girl(not like THAT!)and I hate when people do this to her. We're home girls for life, and I was wondering what you guys think about this ADHD v. mental retardation thing.
And if you guys don't know, ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Why do people think people with ADHD are "retarded?"?
My Chloe is 7 and struggles to sit still ect ect but I have been told many times that she has an above average IQ for her age and has a photographic memory. I worry that she will become that child that nobody likes. I am sorry that this girl is going through this but I see nothing that you can do. anyone that thinks people with ADHD are stupid or retarded in anyway have not got 2 brain cells to rub together.
Reply:some people are just plain mean, and just want to hurt those with conditions that they do not understand, or are different
Reply:Ya, that is weird.... I am familar with adhd and i have never heard someone refer to a person with it as retarded.... maybe the people who are doing are just being immature with their name calling rather than actually meaning what their work defines.... I think you should just continue what you are doing and stay supportive of your friend!!
Reply:Ignorance explains many sins. God bless your kind heart for being this girls friend.
Do your own thing. Much of this worlds grief is trying to change it. What it ought to be is not what is here and happening right now. Dont go into fights for standing up for your friend. Instead help her look more and more "normal" looking by guiding her towards fixing the scars on her face etc.
Reply:If the American society was half as educated as it thinks it is, you would not be having this problem, or your friend would not be having it. What is lacking is pure compassion.
Of course children are mean to each other without really understanding how sensitive others are at times in their lives, so you have to know that kids can give and take more than you would think is possible, but it is not a pretty thing to witness.
It seems tht America has lost a great deal of compassion for others, or "The Other Person, or People".
It is "the in thing" to do to rank on others like it is a joke, but of course to some it is no joke at all, it is more like an attack. It is not so important to confront the enemy as it is to love and support the victim.
So, please stop taking on the world. You can't win that fight. But you can make a wonderful difference for your friend by being her friend.
Good work!
Reply:You are truly a wonderful person to befriend and stand up for your friend with ADHD. People who call your friend "retarded" are misinformed. Why don't you ask one
of your counselors or teachers to host a class on this disorder to inform those who are crass enough to make fun
of another human being.
You are doing just what you were put here on earh for........to
help someone........your rewards will follow you the rest of your life. I tip my hat to you my friend. Your friend is not ugly......your friend is tall and stately, not too overweight for her size and her skin can be treated. Nothing is impossible.
But you already know that, don't you?
Good luck to both of you and remember there are always people who understand problems. But you are wonderful.
Reply:i'm not sure why people think it my 12 year old has been said to have ADHD but she is very bright.
Reply:adhd is not retarded it just makes people concentrate less and more hyper
autism and downs syndrome is retarded not adhd
Reply:it's not true it just means attetion difesit hyperactive disorder i have it and i am not retarded
elephant foot
And if you guys don't know, ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Why do people think people with ADHD are "retarded?"?
My Chloe is 7 and struggles to sit still ect ect but I have been told many times that she has an above average IQ for her age and has a photographic memory. I worry that she will become that child that nobody likes. I am sorry that this girl is going through this but I see nothing that you can do. anyone that thinks people with ADHD are stupid or retarded in anyway have not got 2 brain cells to rub together.
Reply:some people are just plain mean, and just want to hurt those with conditions that they do not understand, or are different
Reply:Ya, that is weird.... I am familar with adhd and i have never heard someone refer to a person with it as retarded.... maybe the people who are doing are just being immature with their name calling rather than actually meaning what their work defines.... I think you should just continue what you are doing and stay supportive of your friend!!
Reply:Ignorance explains many sins. God bless your kind heart for being this girls friend.
Do your own thing. Much of this worlds grief is trying to change it. What it ought to be is not what is here and happening right now. Dont go into fights for standing up for your friend. Instead help her look more and more "normal" looking by guiding her towards fixing the scars on her face etc.
Reply:If the American society was half as educated as it thinks it is, you would not be having this problem, or your friend would not be having it. What is lacking is pure compassion.
Of course children are mean to each other without really understanding how sensitive others are at times in their lives, so you have to know that kids can give and take more than you would think is possible, but it is not a pretty thing to witness.
It seems tht America has lost a great deal of compassion for others, or "The Other Person, or People".
It is "the in thing" to do to rank on others like it is a joke, but of course to some it is no joke at all, it is more like an attack. It is not so important to confront the enemy as it is to love and support the victim.
So, please stop taking on the world. You can't win that fight. But you can make a wonderful difference for your friend by being her friend.
Good work!
Reply:You are truly a wonderful person to befriend and stand up for your friend with ADHD. People who call your friend "retarded" are misinformed. Why don't you ask one
of your counselors or teachers to host a class on this disorder to inform those who are crass enough to make fun
of another human being.
You are doing just what you were put here on earh for........to
help someone........your rewards will follow you the rest of your life. I tip my hat to you my friend. Your friend is not ugly......your friend is tall and stately, not too overweight for her size and her skin can be treated. Nothing is impossible.
But you already know that, don't you?
Good luck to both of you and remember there are always people who understand problems. But you are wonderful.
Reply:i'm not sure why people think it my 12 year old has been said to have ADHD but she is very bright.
Reply:adhd is not retarded it just makes people concentrate less and more hyper
autism and downs syndrome is retarded not adhd
Reply:it's not true it just means attetion difesit hyperactive disorder i have it and i am not retarded
elephant foot
Is this normal?
Is there such thing as obsessive compulsive disorder when it comes to personal hygiene meaning is it normal if you out of hand take showers and scrub like crazy. I take like 30 to hour showers and i never feel clean i scurb so hard until my skin hurts and i hate soap bars so i use alot of body wash. I know this inst really normal in general but i know with obsessive compulsive disorder this could have something to do with that in that category. I hate because i scrub hard. I know it weird but is there a real way to how to take bath in a shower i mean i fell you soap up and rinse or is there an exact way where you have to start out first. I dont know maybe i need to stop scrubbing so hard. I know im clean probably to clean lol. I dont know. Does anyone have this problem or something similar.
Is this normal?
I have that same problem! I feel compelled to bathe once or twice a week whether I need to or not! I start off by washing my hair, then soaping up my body and I usually wash twice downstairs, sometimes for a real long time, can you believe it, and finally just rinse it all off. I must waste at least 10-15 minutes every single time I shower! And to top it all off, about once every three months or so, I even take a 30 minute sit down hot bubble bath, how over the top is that! I've been trying to cut down to once a week, because I'm still clean, but my old dog starts shying away from me after about three or four days, so I just don't know what else to do?
Reply:You're a hypocondriac.
Nothing is wrong with you.
We all just want to get clean.
It takes me an hour and change to get out of the shower.
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stranger.
Reply:stop you're clean..... did someone tell you you're dirty. if not don't
worry, who are you trying to please.
Reply:I have heard of that before. It's not normal. However, I have the same problem and I think it is very hygienic. Just don't scrub so hard and moisturize after wards.
*** Is there a reason why you obsess over your personal hygiene?
Reply:There is such a thing as obsessive compulsive disorder. You should have it looked into. It's a mental state rather than a cleanliness state. My boss is OC. He washes his hands about 100 times a day I reckon!
It's not uncommon, but I'd check it out with a doctor for a referral so that you don't hurt your skin.
Good luck :)
Reply:Just soap up and get out.. being to clean is really bad for you.. a lot of doctors suggest only using antibacterial soap about once a week! If you kill all the germs then your immune system gets weak and wont fight them when really bad ones come along.. you wouldnt feel to clean with staph infections all over ya would you?
Is this normal?
I have that same problem! I feel compelled to bathe once or twice a week whether I need to or not! I start off by washing my hair, then soaping up my body and I usually wash twice downstairs, sometimes for a real long time, can you believe it, and finally just rinse it all off. I must waste at least 10-15 minutes every single time I shower! And to top it all off, about once every three months or so, I even take a 30 minute sit down hot bubble bath, how over the top is that! I've been trying to cut down to once a week, because I'm still clean, but my old dog starts shying away from me after about three or four days, so I just don't know what else to do?
Reply:You're a hypocondriac.
Nothing is wrong with you.
We all just want to get clean.
It takes me an hour and change to get out of the shower.
%26lt;3
stranger.
Reply:stop you're clean..... did someone tell you you're dirty. if not don't
worry, who are you trying to please.
Reply:I have heard of that before. It's not normal. However, I have the same problem and I think it is very hygienic. Just don't scrub so hard and moisturize after wards.
*** Is there a reason why you obsess over your personal hygiene?
Reply:There is such a thing as obsessive compulsive disorder. You should have it looked into. It's a mental state rather than a cleanliness state. My boss is OC. He washes his hands about 100 times a day I reckon!
It's not uncommon, but I'd check it out with a doctor for a referral so that you don't hurt your skin.
Good luck :)
Reply:Just soap up and get out.. being to clean is really bad for you.. a lot of doctors suggest only using antibacterial soap about once a week! If you kill all the germs then your immune system gets weak and wont fight them when really bad ones come along.. you wouldnt feel to clean with staph infections all over ya would you?
Need help from those who have had a cat with OCD!?
My cat has developed an obsessive compulsive disorder and over grooms, causing bald spots and bloody scabs. She sucks on her skin and pulls out fur. She has been on anxiety tablets and these have helped a lot - on top it has cleared up perfectly, however underneath on her belly and sides she has started up licking and sucking and has caused havoc.
My question. Have any of you with cats that have experienced a similar problem, has the cat eventually healed and the behavioural problem gone away?
Do you think she needs stronger anxiety tablets until she is all cleared up and her fur grows back?
*I believe her over grooming/OCD began when she had a flea infection, and even though the fleas are gone %26amp; have been treated, the behavior still remains.
* She is half Burmese and I read on the net that Oriental breeds can be a bit nutty!!
Thanks so much. Any advice is welcome. I am seeing a Vet, just wanted some advice from cat owners with a similar experience.
Need help from those who have had a cat with OCD!?
If you haven't already done so, it's a good idea to get the vet to test for things such as diet sensitivity and allergies. Psychogenic or "nervous" dermatitis, is a reaction to stress or recent illness.
The normal adult cat spends over a third of it's waking day grooming. Aside from the obvious benefits like ridding themselves of parasites and keeping the coat clean, cats also find grooming therapeutic in helping to relieve tension.
Some sensitive cats use grooming as a comforting, diversionary activity when faced with some kind of challenge or perceived threat. Other than when she had a problem with fleas, could there be any other source of stress in her life? Changes of any kind in the home?
While her wounds are healing, they will itch and your cat is responding by grooming the areas, and so the vicious cycle continues. You may have to consider fitting her with an "Elizabethan Collar" to stop her doing this. Your vet is already prescribing sedatives, but the original psychological cause of the problem needs to be identified and treated. If she's a particularly sensitive cat, you may need to build up her competence levels so that she doesn't revert back to this behaviour should she become stressed again.
Oriental breeds are known for being highly intelligent, but they are also more disposed to problems like psychogenic dermatitis and pica (consumption of non food items like fabric, cables and wool). They require a lot of mental stimulation to stop them from becoming bored. Is your cat an indoor only pet? If so, it might be a good idea to allow her outside for short periods on a harness. This will divert her attention away from grooming and will build up her confidence. If you are unable to do this, make sure to set aside regular time every day to play and interact with her, as this should help divert her attention from grooming.
The web article below offers further advice on this subject.
http://www.bsava.com/VirtualContent/8534...
Hope you find a solution. Good luck.
Reply:have you ruled out all parasites?
my cat once started doing that, i tried almost everything. there was nothing visible. turns out it could have been a type of mite. i'm still not sure what specific type of mite it was but i used Revolution http://www.revolutionpet.com/default.htm... she stopped and has since healed but and grow all her fur.
try that or any broad spectrum parasite medication. (or Frontline) they're alot more expensive then flea medication but it might solve your problem.
More info on mites:
Mange is a general term for parasitic diseases caused by any of several microscopic mites. Signs of mange include excessive shedding, fur loss in patches and bald spots around the eyes, nose or ears.
Cheyetialla mites produce an extensive dry, scaly dust suggestive of dandruff. Other signs include a rash and itching. An affected cat should be isolated from other pets. A dip, powder or shampoo should be used. The cats environment should also be treated. In many instances humans are also affected.
Good luck %26amp; treat her asap.
Reply:I work at a vet hospital and we have several cat patients with this type of compulsive behavior.
We have had some luck with a veterinary form of fluoxetine (Prozac) in gel form. You rub it in the cat's ear. In one case the cat eventually stopped the overgrooming even after the medicine was discontinued, but the fur on her belly never grew back -- she had been stripping those areas bare for over ten years.
You might ask your vet about it.
My question. Have any of you with cats that have experienced a similar problem, has the cat eventually healed and the behavioural problem gone away?
Do you think she needs stronger anxiety tablets until she is all cleared up and her fur grows back?
*I believe her over grooming/OCD began when she had a flea infection, and even though the fleas are gone %26amp; have been treated, the behavior still remains.
* She is half Burmese and I read on the net that Oriental breeds can be a bit nutty!!
Thanks so much. Any advice is welcome. I am seeing a Vet, just wanted some advice from cat owners with a similar experience.
Need help from those who have had a cat with OCD!?
If you haven't already done so, it's a good idea to get the vet to test for things such as diet sensitivity and allergies. Psychogenic or "nervous" dermatitis, is a reaction to stress or recent illness.
The normal adult cat spends over a third of it's waking day grooming. Aside from the obvious benefits like ridding themselves of parasites and keeping the coat clean, cats also find grooming therapeutic in helping to relieve tension.
Some sensitive cats use grooming as a comforting, diversionary activity when faced with some kind of challenge or perceived threat. Other than when she had a problem with fleas, could there be any other source of stress in her life? Changes of any kind in the home?
While her wounds are healing, they will itch and your cat is responding by grooming the areas, and so the vicious cycle continues. You may have to consider fitting her with an "Elizabethan Collar" to stop her doing this. Your vet is already prescribing sedatives, but the original psychological cause of the problem needs to be identified and treated. If she's a particularly sensitive cat, you may need to build up her competence levels so that she doesn't revert back to this behaviour should she become stressed again.
Oriental breeds are known for being highly intelligent, but they are also more disposed to problems like psychogenic dermatitis and pica (consumption of non food items like fabric, cables and wool). They require a lot of mental stimulation to stop them from becoming bored. Is your cat an indoor only pet? If so, it might be a good idea to allow her outside for short periods on a harness. This will divert her attention away from grooming and will build up her confidence. If you are unable to do this, make sure to set aside regular time every day to play and interact with her, as this should help divert her attention from grooming.
The web article below offers further advice on this subject.
http://www.bsava.com/VirtualContent/8534...
Hope you find a solution. Good luck.
Reply:have you ruled out all parasites?
my cat once started doing that, i tried almost everything. there was nothing visible. turns out it could have been a type of mite. i'm still not sure what specific type of mite it was but i used Revolution http://www.revolutionpet.com/default.htm... she stopped and has since healed but and grow all her fur.
try that or any broad spectrum parasite medication. (or Frontline) they're alot more expensive then flea medication but it might solve your problem.
More info on mites:
Mange is a general term for parasitic diseases caused by any of several microscopic mites. Signs of mange include excessive shedding, fur loss in patches and bald spots around the eyes, nose or ears.
Cheyetialla mites produce an extensive dry, scaly dust suggestive of dandruff. Other signs include a rash and itching. An affected cat should be isolated from other pets. A dip, powder or shampoo should be used. The cats environment should also be treated. In many instances humans are also affected.
Good luck %26amp; treat her asap.
Reply:I work at a vet hospital and we have several cat patients with this type of compulsive behavior.
We have had some luck with a veterinary form of fluoxetine (Prozac) in gel form. You rub it in the cat's ear. In one case the cat eventually stopped the overgrooming even after the medicine was discontinued, but the fur on her belly never grew back -- she had been stripping those areas bare for over ten years.
You might ask your vet about it.
Has anybody had experience with DrNatura Colonix and Toxinout Programs?
I am thinking of trying this detox as i am at my wits end with my health, i am being past from one specialist to other, each blaming a different thing, My main problems are skin, weight and not going to the loo! so very painfull tummy.
I have tried most things, but now it is getting more serious as i am putting on loads of weight, i used to have eatting disorders, but got better with alot of work, i eat senceble and not the wrong stuff, but over this last year i have put on 4 stone, gone from size 6 to size 12 (uk), with no reason, bar not pooping, in the last week alone i have put on 9lb, i havent even ate that weight in food!! I can feel the panic and the eatting disorder stiring again and am fighting hard against it, but i am so unhappy, i have two dr's saying it is to do with not going to the loo, two saying it is because of med's i am on (but cant do without and have been on for nearly 3 years)
so has anyone had a experience with this product?
http://www.drnatura.com
Has anybody had experience with DrNatura Colonix and Toxinout Programs?
you need to be on a diet of raw food and vegetables , because your system is so messed up ...probably from your eating disorder...you are congested and constipated, constipation is one of the worst evils, all the toxins from poop atacks all nearby organs, for males starting with the prostate and for females reproductive organs and digestive systems, have glass of cold water woth lemon juice first thing in the morning and a spoonful of flax seeds and a handful of prunes, to get rid of your constipation first , eat raw fruit, vegetables, nuts, oatmeal.. thru theday, the more the better as long as you are hungry, try this for 2 weeks to start feeling better. it's hard to give up on all other good stuff but even if you can do it sporadically everyother month or so, keep it up for a month and then slowly eat a little bit of egg and cheese, your system will unload and work a lot better, colonics are the worst thing you can do for yourself it wears out the bacteria lining of your intestines and you wont be able to neither digest well of get rid of toxins properly. it is important also to wear loose fiting clothing, bathe in cool water, do some cardio. its the most natural way. don't buy into expensive teas and treatments, god's way is the best way.
Reply:Both you and your doctor are right! the problem with your health is because you can't go to the "loo" and your body is keeping all that toxin inside. And the meds you are taking cause you not to go to the "loo"
That's the number one side effect to 90% (guestimate) all medications out there. Vicious Cycle!!!!!
The Colonix and Toxinout is a good gentle detox. You need to make sure you do exactly what the instructions say, and be consistent. It'll help you get regular, however the results they claim (weight loss), may or maynot work for you.
I have tried most things, but now it is getting more serious as i am putting on loads of weight, i used to have eatting disorders, but got better with alot of work, i eat senceble and not the wrong stuff, but over this last year i have put on 4 stone, gone from size 6 to size 12 (uk), with no reason, bar not pooping, in the last week alone i have put on 9lb, i havent even ate that weight in food!! I can feel the panic and the eatting disorder stiring again and am fighting hard against it, but i am so unhappy, i have two dr's saying it is to do with not going to the loo, two saying it is because of med's i am on (but cant do without and have been on for nearly 3 years)
so has anyone had a experience with this product?
http://www.drnatura.com
Has anybody had experience with DrNatura Colonix and Toxinout Programs?
you need to be on a diet of raw food and vegetables , because your system is so messed up ...probably from your eating disorder...you are congested and constipated, constipation is one of the worst evils, all the toxins from poop atacks all nearby organs, for males starting with the prostate and for females reproductive organs and digestive systems, have glass of cold water woth lemon juice first thing in the morning and a spoonful of flax seeds and a handful of prunes, to get rid of your constipation first , eat raw fruit, vegetables, nuts, oatmeal.. thru theday, the more the better as long as you are hungry, try this for 2 weeks to start feeling better. it's hard to give up on all other good stuff but even if you can do it sporadically everyother month or so, keep it up for a month and then slowly eat a little bit of egg and cheese, your system will unload and work a lot better, colonics are the worst thing you can do for yourself it wears out the bacteria lining of your intestines and you wont be able to neither digest well of get rid of toxins properly. it is important also to wear loose fiting clothing, bathe in cool water, do some cardio. its the most natural way. don't buy into expensive teas and treatments, god's way is the best way.
Reply:Both you and your doctor are right! the problem with your health is because you can't go to the "loo" and your body is keeping all that toxin inside. And the meds you are taking cause you not to go to the "loo"
That's the number one side effect to 90% (guestimate) all medications out there. Vicious Cycle!!!!!
The Colonix and Toxinout is a good gentle detox. You need to make sure you do exactly what the instructions say, and be consistent. It'll help you get regular, however the results they claim (weight loss), may or maynot work for you.
How many of you have heard of Neurofibromatosis?
Neurofibromatosis (NF) is a neurological disorder that although fairly common, is hardly heard of. What it does is cause tumors to grow along the nerves, randomly, in the body or on the skin. It can also cause a lot of other things, ranging from scoliosis and learning disabilities to cancer. It is a genetic disorder, progressive, and has no cure.
As a mom of two kids with NF, I have been working towards bringing awareness to my community. I am just curious as to how many people reading this might actually have heard of NF, or possibly either have NF or know someone who does.
How many of you have heard of Neurofibromatosis?
i have NF
did you know your kids have a 50/50 chance of passing it on.. to their kids..
?
Reply:I've heard of it, but I spent a lot of time growing up around the chilren's hospital's my brother was in. Now, I'm in nursing school, so my knowledge is a little more extensive than the average joe.
Reply:not me.. thanks for bringing to my attention.
agave
As a mom of two kids with NF, I have been working towards bringing awareness to my community. I am just curious as to how many people reading this might actually have heard of NF, or possibly either have NF or know someone who does.
How many of you have heard of Neurofibromatosis?
i have NF
did you know your kids have a 50/50 chance of passing it on.. to their kids..
?
Reply:I've heard of it, but I spent a lot of time growing up around the chilren's hospital's my brother was in. Now, I'm in nursing school, so my knowledge is a little more extensive than the average joe.
Reply:not me.. thanks for bringing to my attention.
agave
My roommate says its a chemical imbalance?
Last night, during a fight, my roommate said he thinks I have a chemical because (according to him) I am beautiful. When I look in the mirror I think I am hedious. I am fat, my hair can get really frizzy, my skin isn't what you'd call clear. I think he's either lying to me or has known me so long he doesn't "see" me anymore. He says the reason I see myself so negitivly is because I have some sort of disorder. I don't think so. Is there a disorder like that?
My roommate says its a chemical imbalance?
Yes, it is a disorder...
It's called relying on the media or society for self worth.
They (media ((print, TV)) put out there tall, beautiful, and air brushed women that we (the average gal) are supposed to look like.
What I've realized (over many, many years)...there will always be prettier, taller, smarter...etc people. Find who you are and work on ways of liking yourself.
You are made in the image of our creator and you are beautiful. Your roommate is right. You don't see what he does...Your heart.
Try judging yourself from the inside out...instead of the other way around.
Reply:LMAO.. that's funny. I always feel the same way, but my ex and a couple of my friends tell me i am beautiful. Its funny how you cant see what they see, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It'd not necessarily a chemical imbalance, but more like low self esteem
Reply:Yes the disorder of non acceptance. Your friend says you are beautiful because he sees it. I wish that everyone could see someone elses beauty. accept that your friend is right, because the mirror isn't sometimes.
Reply:This sounds like low self esteem! Nobody knows you better than you but the most important thing is to love you.A lot easier said than done! It's amazing how we can cut off how we really look and how we feel but other people see how we really do look and it come back to self-esteem.
Reply:You have answered the question yourself. That is why your friend has ditched you.
Reply:I feel the same way when I don't exercise, I know it sounds strange but after 2 days exercising I feel great about myself. I haven't exercised since last week and right now. and I don't even want to see a mirror. it may be a chemical thing seeing as how when a person is physically active different chemicals are released. hey, or you can just get some fat ugly frends, then you will always feel pretty.
Reply:i dont think its a disorder its just poor self image likely caused by low self esteem he cant see your frizzy hair or the extra pound or pimple because he is not looking for that he probably just sees a nice person and thats beautiful to him give yourself a break u probably are beautifull believe in yourself
Reply:Please understand that your roommate may be bipolar. This is a medical condition that can and will be treated by the right medication. Please understand your roommate and always talk to him when he's in this mental state of mind. Please talk to a counselor of your choosing for him and follow up with doctor appointments for him after he gets medicine for this condition and can openly talk about his mental stability.
God bless you both..
Reply:Is called Body Dysmorphic disorder.
My roommate says its a chemical imbalance?
Yes, it is a disorder...
It's called relying on the media or society for self worth.
They (media ((print, TV)) put out there tall, beautiful, and air brushed women that we (the average gal) are supposed to look like.
What I've realized (over many, many years)...there will always be prettier, taller, smarter...etc people. Find who you are and work on ways of liking yourself.
You are made in the image of our creator and you are beautiful. Your roommate is right. You don't see what he does...Your heart.
Try judging yourself from the inside out...instead of the other way around.
Reply:LMAO.. that's funny. I always feel the same way, but my ex and a couple of my friends tell me i am beautiful. Its funny how you cant see what they see, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It'd not necessarily a chemical imbalance, but more like low self esteem
Reply:Yes the disorder of non acceptance. Your friend says you are beautiful because he sees it. I wish that everyone could see someone elses beauty. accept that your friend is right, because the mirror isn't sometimes.
Reply:This sounds like low self esteem! Nobody knows you better than you but the most important thing is to love you.A lot easier said than done! It's amazing how we can cut off how we really look and how we feel but other people see how we really do look and it come back to self-esteem.
Reply:You have answered the question yourself. That is why your friend has ditched you.
Reply:I feel the same way when I don't exercise, I know it sounds strange but after 2 days exercising I feel great about myself. I haven't exercised since last week and right now. and I don't even want to see a mirror. it may be a chemical thing seeing as how when a person is physically active different chemicals are released. hey, or you can just get some fat ugly frends, then you will always feel pretty.
Reply:i dont think its a disorder its just poor self image likely caused by low self esteem he cant see your frizzy hair or the extra pound or pimple because he is not looking for that he probably just sees a nice person and thats beautiful to him give yourself a break u probably are beautifull believe in yourself
Reply:Please understand that your roommate may be bipolar. This is a medical condition that can and will be treated by the right medication. Please understand your roommate and always talk to him when he's in this mental state of mind. Please talk to a counselor of your choosing for him and follow up with doctor appointments for him after he gets medicine for this condition and can openly talk about his mental stability.
God bless you both..
Reply:Is called Body Dysmorphic disorder.
Do i heal normally?
okay, so my body went through a year of malnutrition during my eating disorder. Ever since then, my body haven't been healing normally. The tiniest scratches turn into scars and new skin doesn't grow over scabs. My body is covered in scars, and i just don't understand it. What is wrong with me?
P.S. I'm barely thirteen, so it's not because I'm really old. I'm almost positive it has something to do with the eating disorder i suffered two years ago.
Do i heal normally?
it most likly does have smoething to do with your past. My period stoped for about two months during my eeating disorder. Its because you are putting your body through alot of starain and it is not use to it. You are making your body adjust alot. give it time and please take care of urself
best of luck
skye
P.S. I'm barely thirteen, so it's not because I'm really old. I'm almost positive it has something to do with the eating disorder i suffered two years ago.
Do i heal normally?
it most likly does have smoething to do with your past. My period stoped for about two months during my eeating disorder. Its because you are putting your body through alot of starain and it is not use to it. You are making your body adjust alot. give it time and please take care of urself
best of luck
skye
What's wrong with my sister?
She has these "episodes" usually 2-3 times per week and the following happens: Her blood pressure goes way up (like 145/104), the skin on her face and neck flush, her hear rate goes up and she get palpitations, nauses, and she has pain in her back, ankles, knees, wrists, neck, and a bad headache. This has been going on for a couple months and it only happens at night.
She went to her Dr. and he said she was just getting worked up as she has panic disorder, but she swears it's not a panic attack. She's quite calm and her disorder is under control.
Facts: She's 42 but showing no signs of menopause. She has a ruptured lumbar disc (being treated). Take meds for blood pressure. Blood sugar normal. Weight normal. She doesn't drink alcohol. Occasionally takes Vicodin for back pain (no correllation with episodes)
She refuses to go back to doctor unless she has an idea of what's wrong for fear of just being dismissed.
Is this some syndrome? Anybody ever had this?
What's wrong with my sister?
She needs a second opinion. Before she goes, your sister needs to really search deep inside and be sure that this is not her feelings playing tricks on her. I appear to be perfectly calm when in fact by body hurts. I am so good at self-control that I am unable to disperse all of the anxiety myself despite meditation. Massage therapy helps a lot. Healthy mind, healthy body.
Reply:Sounds to me like she may be starting the menopause. She should get a blood test, which may show any other problems.
Reply:Why not go to another MD and get a second opinion?
Reply:I think that she may be reacting to the her MEDS all of them!!
PAIN IS A TRICKY THING!! AND SHE IS NOT ADMITTING TO A LOT OF IT...
I am 43 and hate to take pain meds, and I went thru that and found we had to change ALL of them. you said the vicodin is no correlation, but it might be... if not taken properly.
Hun as much as I want to answer your question. All I can do is tell you MY experience. But that does not tell you if it is the exact same... OK
I would be willing to chat with ya and see about an answer--
I THINK A VISIT TO THE DR IS IN ORDER and if she is on vicodin - isnt she seeing the dr anyway and why does that dr know about this..
I believe totally it is a reaction to her meds.(and pain) I have a name for it but would rather IM or Email -OK
karylle(carol)
She may try some stress management techniques- taking deep breaths when these episodes occur!
She went to her Dr. and he said she was just getting worked up as she has panic disorder, but she swears it's not a panic attack. She's quite calm and her disorder is under control.
Facts: She's 42 but showing no signs of menopause. She has a ruptured lumbar disc (being treated). Take meds for blood pressure. Blood sugar normal. Weight normal. She doesn't drink alcohol. Occasionally takes Vicodin for back pain (no correllation with episodes)
She refuses to go back to doctor unless she has an idea of what's wrong for fear of just being dismissed.
Is this some syndrome? Anybody ever had this?
What's wrong with my sister?
She needs a second opinion. Before she goes, your sister needs to really search deep inside and be sure that this is not her feelings playing tricks on her. I appear to be perfectly calm when in fact by body hurts. I am so good at self-control that I am unable to disperse all of the anxiety myself despite meditation. Massage therapy helps a lot. Healthy mind, healthy body.
Reply:Sounds to me like she may be starting the menopause. She should get a blood test, which may show any other problems.
Reply:Why not go to another MD and get a second opinion?
Reply:I think that she may be reacting to the her MEDS all of them!!
PAIN IS A TRICKY THING!! AND SHE IS NOT ADMITTING TO A LOT OF IT...
I am 43 and hate to take pain meds, and I went thru that and found we had to change ALL of them. you said the vicodin is no correlation, but it might be... if not taken properly.
Hun as much as I want to answer your question. All I can do is tell you MY experience. But that does not tell you if it is the exact same... OK
I would be willing to chat with ya and see about an answer--
I THINK A VISIT TO THE DR IS IN ORDER and if she is on vicodin - isnt she seeing the dr anyway and why does that dr know about this..
I believe totally it is a reaction to her meds.(and pain) I have a name for it but would rather IM or Email -OK
karylle(carol)
She may try some stress management techniques- taking deep breaths when these episodes occur!
I hate myself?
I hate myself sooo much. I do suffer from depression, eating disorder, anxiety at times. I see a counsellor but i don't see her again for weeks. i have no one to rely on. I feel fat and i just want to crawl out of my skin right now. i always want to hurt myself because i feel i deserved to be punished..and i dont know what to do.
I have been to my doctor..lets just say they are all less than helpful..infact i was told i would grow out of my eating disorder, it was just a phase.. was then sent to a phychiatric nurse for being suicidal and she told me that all "stupid teenagers" thought suicide was a way out.. oh and also accused me of lying and said that i was "throwing everything back in her face"...just because i wasn't agreeing to the statements she was making about me! Oh and someone i confided in for months and who supported me completely dumped me as a friend, my mum said i was a shame on the family and also broke my confidence in her by telling other family members about me!!
I hate myself?
Well......Without knowing you and your history it is very difficult for people to give you constructive answers.
You don't really say what it is you want...just a rant about how awful you are ...how fat you are..and a little about your eating and mental health problems. You haven't even said what age you are but I'm guessing your in your teenage years.
I've been a Psychiatric nurse for probably as long as you've been born and it's not an easy job...The mind is a strange thing and changing peoples perceptions is difficult...Me telling you "No your not awful or fat" just isn't going to do it ...is it?
So I think you have to go back to your doctor or nurse and tell them HOW YOU FEEL and WHAT YOU WANT TO CHANGE....
You haven't asked for help from what I can see and are too angry blaming others for not recognising your distress. Your poor mum hasn't got a clue what is happening to you...she's probably besides herself with grief watching you self destruct and too scared to say anything in case you rant at her...
Write down how you feel..
how long you've felt like this?
Were there any "triggers" for how your feeling...did something happen around that time?
Why do you feel you have to be punished?
What ACTUALLY have you done that makes you feel punishment is necessary?
What do you think wuold make things better for you ...don't answer "By dying" as thats not an answer.
Once you have all the questions answered....and don't answer them "I deserve to be punished because i'm bad"...That's not an answer either....Go to someone who you can trust...there will be someone...most likely your mum and go over them with her. She'll probably be able to make more sense of how your feeling if she knows why your feeling so awful.
I'd like to say that i've seen loads of young girls with symptoms like yours...some have been abused..WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT...
some have come from broken homes and feel unloved because a parent left..WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT...and some get bullied by peers and made to feel worthless...WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT.
So again..without really knowing what's made you feel so bad about yourself..it's difficult to get to the bottom of it....
But I bet your not fat, ugly or awful...just needing help finding the right road.
Good luck with your search of who you are and who you can be.
Reply:I did ask for help ACTUALLY.I explained how i felt. For you to continuously make out everything is my fault did not help and if your doing this to patience..think about what YOU are already doing to THEIR self esteem! Report It
Reply:just go near a river, listen the water flow,, repeat it every day,,you will feel your soul relieved
Reply:You need serious help if this is true. Go to a hospital! You'll find someone that can help you if you kep looking.
Reply:you have to learn to appreciate your good quality, everyone has worth and strengths, you just have to find it. You probably have a chemical unbalance that creates these feelings, you should get professional help and be open to it..
good luck, stay strong
Reply:You need serious help! No one on Yahoo can help you with what you are going through, you need to see a psychiatrist........SOON!
Reply:screw the counselor and everyone else who put you down. you are going through a hard time in your life and killing yourself is no way to deal with it. I know it's hard, even though i have never experienced something like this. I really don't have an answer but you have to find something good in your life, it may be hard but try it. Find one thing that you like about yourself, and focus on that. forget everything else and focus on what you are good at, or something that you like about yourself. Please try it and please dont harm yourself.
Reply:How about you work on Something tp improve yr feelings and yr health?.. How about a plan?.. Try to go on a trip...Try to watch Comdey Tv Episodes.. it helps .. to make yrself feel better.. and eat less...Remember there r always ppl you're so important to them,,,.. Dont waste yr life on Being depressed....
xx Have a good day xx
Reply:You'll feel better this summer. Try to read a good book once in awhile and have a hobby you like. Remember, you have food, clothing and shelter. Many children in the world are starving and homeless. Try to learn about faith in a God. He might help you sometimes.
Reply:Hey, you have a lot of problems but hurting yourself won`t make them go away.
You need someone who will listen to you without judging. Phone either the Samaritans or Childline and they will listen and put you in touch with agencies to help you.
Go back to your mum and calmly explain your feelings.
Reply:Go and see a different doctor, confide in another member of your family who may be a little more understanding than your Mum.
Start liking yourself, you have everything to live for, you just need to believe it.
Please see someone soon, there are other people out there who can help you. What have you done so wrong that you feel you deserve to be punished?
Good luck, I hope things work out for you x
Reply:god loves you.and come on here,we will make you feel better-I hope!!
Reply:I'm sorry you have to feel this way and that you feel now one is helping you, i wish i could help you as i had a sister who felt somewhat the same , please try and get another doctor to help you or try the Samaritans if you are in the UK, remember doing something stupid will not help, i hope you get through this good luck.
Reply:I know this may sound stupid but have you thought of going and talking to your local vicar...you sound like you just need someone to listen to you and accept you for who you are...the doctor and the psychiatric nurse have seen you as just another job....i'm in no way religious but the idea of talking to a vicar comes from knowing that he will listen to you and have some good advice and this will make you feel that you have at least one person who will respect you and so lifting your mood
Reply:I felt like you five years ago. The fact you have put this question on means that you want to change so belive me YOU WILL.
You need to draw a line under all the negative thinking you are doing so here is what I did. Don't just dish it but give things a go and see if slowly you feel a bit better.
Volunteer - just an hour a week - to help out for a cause which you would enjoy. I did at a riding stable which gave kids with disabilities a chance to ride. I also spend an hour a week walking dogs at a local centre for lost dogs. It made me realise that I really had very little to complain about and also that just giving one hour really made a difference to these kids. I began to feel ashamed at all the time I had spent thinking and complaining about myself. There will be places like that near you for sure. Just give it a go.
Reply:if i were you, I'd go see a different doctor. depression is very real, and usually isn't a PHASE you'll grow out of. the good news is that over time you will learn how to handle the bad feelings you are having. i was diagnosed at 14 (I'm 34 now) with chronic depression. there are times (like now) that you may feel everyone is "dumping" you. if this is the case, then it's time to meet new people that actually care about you and your feelings. it is hard to overcome depression on your own, and you shouldn't have to handle it alone. find a counsellor or a crisis phone line in your area, and keep talking to people. there are tonnes of professionals out there that can help you. it may take time to find the right one, but don't give up!
you are NOT alone in your feelings. i give you credit for having the strength to admit you need help! most people are too chicken to admit what you are feeling. you may not realize it right now, but you seem like a strong person who can get through this.
sending lots of hugs (if you want them)! good luck, and continue to be strong! good luck
Reply:I am so sorry you are hurting right now. I went through depression as a teen but got through ok. Now I am a mom to 4 girls and a boy. Try something opposite to emotion to help. Try to remember what once gave you joy and make every attempt to do it. Read funny books, watch funny movies. Usually when we are down we dwell in the sad stuff. Laughing can do wonders. Depression is very real and very difficult no matter what age you are. Go to an art museum, listen to up beat music. Go for a walk in a garden, read the bible, smell pleasant smells like lavendar or go to store and try some new perfume testers. Trust me with time this uneasy stage will pass. I tried suicide several times as a teen but thank God I did not succeed. I now have beautiful children to fill my life. I do not take meds now but take 10 1000mg of fish oil to balance my emotions and it works wonders but is not an overnight cure. Fish oil takes about a month to work. Hope this helps.
Reply:have you tried calling the Samaritans? i dont know the number but i am sure they have a website? please dont suffer in silence any longer and give them a call. your mum does not sound very understanding about this. if you were my daughter i would be very worried about your mental health! you dont say how old you are but you could ring childline maybe? has something in your life triggered this depression? do you have any friends? i know its not very hip but do you have a local church? you could speak to someone there and make friends? if they have a local youth group. best of luck to you. and chin up. the teenage years are often the worst. xxxx p.s volunteering is a great idea try your local charity shop. or special needs centre. my daughter has down syndrome and there are lots of teenagers who help out at the childrens centre which she attends every month and they have a great time helping others in need.
Reply:Hi babs. Occupy your mind, read call a friend sit on the internet a talk to lots of people, watch tv, dvds, I suffer from mild depression that ain being treated but i know what its like. you have to try to occupy your mind.
If you feel you need to check your self into a %26amp; e. Let em sort you out.
Absolutley no one deserves to die. everyone is hear for a reason ok. You can email me if you want and then ill email you my personal email addresss.
Reply:You really do need to see yr GP and tell them how you're feeling.
I have suffered from ALL of the things you mention here at one point or another. I've had all kinds of therapy....tablets....etc etc and at some level that made me feel crap in the first place cos I would think stuff like 'see, it's only me who needs therapy, everyone else can cope...why am I so crap' etc etc. Last year however, I again went on a course of antidepressants AND a course of therapy, both of which have helped me immensely.Another thing that helped me was someone telling me that I wwasn't crap unless I thought I was....and really deep down I knew I wasn't. I'd never killed anyone...never even hurt anyone or anything! and if you think about it, how many people do you know that ARE crap...that have done some bad/nasty things in their life...and they don't beat themselves up about it. They just get on with it.
About feeling fat.... I'm feeling very fat right now!!! It seems to be an in built part of female life now!!! It's something you'll be able to have a giggle about when you're feeling better. I still have my days of feeling crap about myself BUT I now also have my days when I just don't care.....it's normal to have lummpy bits and wobbly bits! It is not normal NOT to!!!! and just think what these real stick insect types feel when they sit down....it MUST hurt if you've got bones for a bum!!!!
Please get help....keep writing on here if you need to....you know deep, deep down that you're a normal, good person :)
Reply:listen i myself suffer from depression. I have been on many different medications and i promise you things are going to get better. some people just dont understand that there are different levels of depression. I am now older and have children- two of them and im about to get married and if you had asked me if my life was going to be like this 3 years ago i would not have believed you but listen to me sweetheart, things do get better and god you will love life. i promise you that you will be happy oneday!
Reply:i kind of know how you feel. i hate myself lso, unfortuantely. my therapist says i discount the positive. it's really immature of me too. i have social anxiety. it doesn't matter how good my day is, once something happen, say i run out of things to say when talking to someon, i feel like a total loser. i am so afraid of rejection that i dont have many friends. just some old ones. its all the little things about myself. but seriously i feel bad that those people said you were lying and you are to blame for your problems. i actually just said this to someone else. they are just rationalizing. they do not want to believe that bad things happen to people for no reason because theyare araid that it will happen to them. also i suggest you see your therapist every week. i am going tomorrrow and i love therapy. also your mom is a jerk sorry. you need to find some support somewhere join something if you arent too anxious. and know that at least the people on this site support you. keep talking on this site also. my therapist actually suggestedi do it.
Reply::( Sounds like you are in a pretty bad situation. You know I've been there too - if I was the last person on earth I couldn't have been more alone - sounds like you are feeling the same way? I'm sorry I don't really have an answer for you cos I'm 23, safe and making a go of my life as much as I can, but I still hate myself. But I can tell you what I do know helped me. It really really sucs that there are far too few people who care about young people who feel like you do - wether it's because of depression, abuse, or anything else, some people just seem to think that we are a waste of space! I know it's really hard, but try not to get too angry with them for letting you down - what's important is getting good help, or helping yourself. Try not to be too hard on yourself - I don't mean about the big stuff - the reasons why you feel like this - I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't hate yourself, not cos you should but because that would be v hipocritical of me. What I mean is the small every day stuff - take really small steps - go down to the shops tomorrow and treat yourself to something you'd like - a magazine or something like that, or do something that you enjoy even if it's just for 10 minutes - remind yourself that you did a good job doing that cos if you're anything like me it is extremely hard to let yourself feel happy! Think about what you really really want - is there somewhere you'd be happier living? Maybe if you can think of the future there's a job you want to do? Try to find out about how to get there. Doing voluntary work has helped me more than anything to get my confidence up, get out, meet new people, do stuff I never imagined before and to stop me thinkin bout the bad stuff for a while too. I couldn't think of a future for a long time, but knew I was always interested in plants - now I'm going to go to the himalayas in the summer to study them! That's something way beyond my craziest dreams, and nothing big got me there, just lots of little tiny baby steps. There are lots of charities that can help you too. The first place you should look is childline (if you're 18 or under) - they can talk stuff through with you but they can also put you in touch with heaps of organisations that can help you. They are really nice there - I used to be mute but I wrote to a councillor there for a while and she was really nice - she was really the one person who didn't ever let me down. Some other places that helped me a lot were fairbridge, bernardos and venture scotland, though obiously it would depend where you live. I think that meeting other people like you can also help a lot.
I get the feeling I'm spraffing a lot and I hope I'm not making you feel worse instead of better so I'm just going to shut up now, but please remember that honestly honestly your childhood is not "the best years of your life" (I used to be terrified thinking it gets worse?!?) - and honestly it takes a long time but stuff honestly does get better when you're older and you can do what you want. I'm thinking of you xxx
Reply:You must be going through such a hard time in your life. Can I assure you things will get better. I will guess you are between the age of 13 and 22. You cant blame your mum for telling another family member. Remember parents are only human, she was probably just looking for advise herself. I can promise you you will come out of this episode a stronger person!! Look after yourself, and stay strong!
Reply:Oh Honey. It sounds like you have some serious issues going on. You have to work on the underlying cause of your problems. The Depression, Anxiety, and Eating Disorders are just complications from the real problem. The first thing you need to do is call your counselor and tell her that you are having a crises. You need to see her within the next 24 hours or so. Have you ever been on anti Depressants? if not you should consider talking to your doctor about being on something. You need a counselor that will not try the band aid approach and only discuss the obvious issues that you are struggling from but those lying under the surface.
You need to work on your sel-esteem and confidence. these are things that you can do on your own you don't need anyone else.
As for your friend. it sounds like you may have wore her out. think about it if you had a friend that always came to you with her problems and complained to and such it would be hard to always be there for her! right? She may have been having some problems of her own and felt that she needed some time to deal with her issues.
Your mom may not be equipped to help you with your issues and may have been trying to confied in other family members to know what to do to help.
That is not to excuse what she did, only to try to help you see where she may have been comming from.
You need to Find another Dr. that will adress you and your issues seriously. and you may need another counselor as well uf the one you have now is not helping you in the way you need.
Please don't think suicide is the way out. It is a Perminant Solution to a temprary problem
I hope I helped you.
please feel free to message me if you need anything
Reply:Oh my gosh!! i cant believe what other people put on here and what they told you!
I am really sorry for what you are going through! This will make you into such a strong person, which you already are! I have gone through the same thing. And just to let you know, drinking, cutting, smoking, sex, or drugs will not help you! it will make things only 10 times worse. I started smoking, drinking, cutting myself, and had problems with eating disorders when i was 13. Now i have to deal with the cravings of ciggarettes, the scars on my arms(that people judge me by), and the little excess wieght from drinking adn messing up my diet. You may want to resort to some of these things but they are really just going to bring you down more.
Some things that could help (which i did) is to keep a journal (like a diary, but i never liked the name "diary" lol) and i wrote down EVERYTHING. Everything that happened or anyting that i was feeling. I didnt write in it everyday, just when big things came up. But it gives you a chance to look at what you are thinking and doing, and analyze if they are really helping or hurting you. It helped me a ton!
Another thing that i did was lay on the ground. It sounds wierd but it is so nice to just get away from everything and just relax in silence for a little bit and concentrate on nothing. It really brings you down to earth! (both mentally and physically)
I know what your going through and i know its very hard and that it will never end. IT will end! eventually. I do have scars from my past, but they did only make me a stronger person.
I also got a pet fish! And it made me happy. Just to see how carefree it was made me want to be like it.
I know that you can get through this! Just believe in yourself and never let go of the things that you believe in! I you want happiness in a world that puts you down and makes you feel like s***, you need to look beyond the people for help. You need to look inside yourself and find out who you really are and what you stand for and believe. I truly wish good luck to you, and if you want to talk my email is alyssadevries7@yahoo.com. I hope that i helped
Reply:no , it not a solution hate our self .. smile to days ; days smile to you ..
Reply:try this site below
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/faq...
i really hope you get through this tough time..good luck.god bless and take good care of yourselff
Reply:Hang in there
Reply:get a self help book like creating self confidence and just tell yourself i am a wonderful woman infront of your mirror repeat this until u love urself and get a hobby a fun one that will give u confidence
good luck
take care
x
Reply:I think you need medication.
I'm not being rude.
Or
You want attention.
Well, that's how it seems because you added those extra details...Wanting people to say "no,you don't belong in the gutter"....
Or atleast that's how I percieve it.
Reply:work for the samaratins, you will make everyones problems seem trivial and make them feel better.
snake plant
I have been to my doctor..lets just say they are all less than helpful..infact i was told i would grow out of my eating disorder, it was just a phase.. was then sent to a phychiatric nurse for being suicidal and she told me that all "stupid teenagers" thought suicide was a way out.. oh and also accused me of lying and said that i was "throwing everything back in her face"...just because i wasn't agreeing to the statements she was making about me! Oh and someone i confided in for months and who supported me completely dumped me as a friend, my mum said i was a shame on the family and also broke my confidence in her by telling other family members about me!!
I hate myself?
Well......Without knowing you and your history it is very difficult for people to give you constructive answers.
You don't really say what it is you want...just a rant about how awful you are ...how fat you are..and a little about your eating and mental health problems. You haven't even said what age you are but I'm guessing your in your teenage years.
I've been a Psychiatric nurse for probably as long as you've been born and it's not an easy job...The mind is a strange thing and changing peoples perceptions is difficult...Me telling you "No your not awful or fat" just isn't going to do it ...is it?
So I think you have to go back to your doctor or nurse and tell them HOW YOU FEEL and WHAT YOU WANT TO CHANGE....
You haven't asked for help from what I can see and are too angry blaming others for not recognising your distress. Your poor mum hasn't got a clue what is happening to you...she's probably besides herself with grief watching you self destruct and too scared to say anything in case you rant at her...
Write down how you feel..
how long you've felt like this?
Were there any "triggers" for how your feeling...did something happen around that time?
Why do you feel you have to be punished?
What ACTUALLY have you done that makes you feel punishment is necessary?
What do you think wuold make things better for you ...don't answer "By dying" as thats not an answer.
Once you have all the questions answered....and don't answer them "I deserve to be punished because i'm bad"...That's not an answer either....Go to someone who you can trust...there will be someone...most likely your mum and go over them with her. She'll probably be able to make more sense of how your feeling if she knows why your feeling so awful.
I'd like to say that i've seen loads of young girls with symptoms like yours...some have been abused..WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT...
some have come from broken homes and feel unloved because a parent left..WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT...and some get bullied by peers and made to feel worthless...WHICH IS NOT THEIR FAULT.
So again..without really knowing what's made you feel so bad about yourself..it's difficult to get to the bottom of it....
But I bet your not fat, ugly or awful...just needing help finding the right road.
Good luck with your search of who you are and who you can be.
Reply:I did ask for help ACTUALLY.I explained how i felt. For you to continuously make out everything is my fault did not help and if your doing this to patience..think about what YOU are already doing to THEIR self esteem! Report It
Reply:just go near a river, listen the water flow,, repeat it every day,,you will feel your soul relieved
Reply:You need serious help if this is true. Go to a hospital! You'll find someone that can help you if you kep looking.
Reply:you have to learn to appreciate your good quality, everyone has worth and strengths, you just have to find it. You probably have a chemical unbalance that creates these feelings, you should get professional help and be open to it..
good luck, stay strong
Reply:You need serious help! No one on Yahoo can help you with what you are going through, you need to see a psychiatrist........SOON!
Reply:screw the counselor and everyone else who put you down. you are going through a hard time in your life and killing yourself is no way to deal with it. I know it's hard, even though i have never experienced something like this. I really don't have an answer but you have to find something good in your life, it may be hard but try it. Find one thing that you like about yourself, and focus on that. forget everything else and focus on what you are good at, or something that you like about yourself. Please try it and please dont harm yourself.
Reply:How about you work on Something tp improve yr feelings and yr health?.. How about a plan?.. Try to go on a trip...Try to watch Comdey Tv Episodes.. it helps .. to make yrself feel better.. and eat less...Remember there r always ppl you're so important to them,,,.. Dont waste yr life on Being depressed....
xx Have a good day xx
Reply:You'll feel better this summer. Try to read a good book once in awhile and have a hobby you like. Remember, you have food, clothing and shelter. Many children in the world are starving and homeless. Try to learn about faith in a God. He might help you sometimes.
Reply:Hey, you have a lot of problems but hurting yourself won`t make them go away.
You need someone who will listen to you without judging. Phone either the Samaritans or Childline and they will listen and put you in touch with agencies to help you.
Go back to your mum and calmly explain your feelings.
Reply:Go and see a different doctor, confide in another member of your family who may be a little more understanding than your Mum.
Start liking yourself, you have everything to live for, you just need to believe it.
Please see someone soon, there are other people out there who can help you. What have you done so wrong that you feel you deserve to be punished?
Good luck, I hope things work out for you x
Reply:god loves you.and come on here,we will make you feel better-I hope!!
Reply:I'm sorry you have to feel this way and that you feel now one is helping you, i wish i could help you as i had a sister who felt somewhat the same , please try and get another doctor to help you or try the Samaritans if you are in the UK, remember doing something stupid will not help, i hope you get through this good luck.
Reply:I know this may sound stupid but have you thought of going and talking to your local vicar...you sound like you just need someone to listen to you and accept you for who you are...the doctor and the psychiatric nurse have seen you as just another job....i'm in no way religious but the idea of talking to a vicar comes from knowing that he will listen to you and have some good advice and this will make you feel that you have at least one person who will respect you and so lifting your mood
Reply:I felt like you five years ago. The fact you have put this question on means that you want to change so belive me YOU WILL.
You need to draw a line under all the negative thinking you are doing so here is what I did. Don't just dish it but give things a go and see if slowly you feel a bit better.
Volunteer - just an hour a week - to help out for a cause which you would enjoy. I did at a riding stable which gave kids with disabilities a chance to ride. I also spend an hour a week walking dogs at a local centre for lost dogs. It made me realise that I really had very little to complain about and also that just giving one hour really made a difference to these kids. I began to feel ashamed at all the time I had spent thinking and complaining about myself. There will be places like that near you for sure. Just give it a go.
Reply:if i were you, I'd go see a different doctor. depression is very real, and usually isn't a PHASE you'll grow out of. the good news is that over time you will learn how to handle the bad feelings you are having. i was diagnosed at 14 (I'm 34 now) with chronic depression. there are times (like now) that you may feel everyone is "dumping" you. if this is the case, then it's time to meet new people that actually care about you and your feelings. it is hard to overcome depression on your own, and you shouldn't have to handle it alone. find a counsellor or a crisis phone line in your area, and keep talking to people. there are tonnes of professionals out there that can help you. it may take time to find the right one, but don't give up!
you are NOT alone in your feelings. i give you credit for having the strength to admit you need help! most people are too chicken to admit what you are feeling. you may not realize it right now, but you seem like a strong person who can get through this.
sending lots of hugs (if you want them)! good luck, and continue to be strong! good luck
Reply:I am so sorry you are hurting right now. I went through depression as a teen but got through ok. Now I am a mom to 4 girls and a boy. Try something opposite to emotion to help. Try to remember what once gave you joy and make every attempt to do it. Read funny books, watch funny movies. Usually when we are down we dwell in the sad stuff. Laughing can do wonders. Depression is very real and very difficult no matter what age you are. Go to an art museum, listen to up beat music. Go for a walk in a garden, read the bible, smell pleasant smells like lavendar or go to store and try some new perfume testers. Trust me with time this uneasy stage will pass. I tried suicide several times as a teen but thank God I did not succeed. I now have beautiful children to fill my life. I do not take meds now but take 10 1000mg of fish oil to balance my emotions and it works wonders but is not an overnight cure. Fish oil takes about a month to work. Hope this helps.
Reply:have you tried calling the Samaritans? i dont know the number but i am sure they have a website? please dont suffer in silence any longer and give them a call. your mum does not sound very understanding about this. if you were my daughter i would be very worried about your mental health! you dont say how old you are but you could ring childline maybe? has something in your life triggered this depression? do you have any friends? i know its not very hip but do you have a local church? you could speak to someone there and make friends? if they have a local youth group. best of luck to you. and chin up. the teenage years are often the worst. xxxx p.s volunteering is a great idea try your local charity shop. or special needs centre. my daughter has down syndrome and there are lots of teenagers who help out at the childrens centre which she attends every month and they have a great time helping others in need.
Reply:Hi babs. Occupy your mind, read call a friend sit on the internet a talk to lots of people, watch tv, dvds, I suffer from mild depression that ain being treated but i know what its like. you have to try to occupy your mind.
If you feel you need to check your self into a %26amp; e. Let em sort you out.
Absolutley no one deserves to die. everyone is hear for a reason ok. You can email me if you want and then ill email you my personal email addresss.
Reply:You really do need to see yr GP and tell them how you're feeling.
I have suffered from ALL of the things you mention here at one point or another. I've had all kinds of therapy....tablets....etc etc and at some level that made me feel crap in the first place cos I would think stuff like 'see, it's only me who needs therapy, everyone else can cope...why am I so crap' etc etc. Last year however, I again went on a course of antidepressants AND a course of therapy, both of which have helped me immensely.Another thing that helped me was someone telling me that I wwasn't crap unless I thought I was....and really deep down I knew I wasn't. I'd never killed anyone...never even hurt anyone or anything! and if you think about it, how many people do you know that ARE crap...that have done some bad/nasty things in their life...and they don't beat themselves up about it. They just get on with it.
About feeling fat.... I'm feeling very fat right now!!! It seems to be an in built part of female life now!!! It's something you'll be able to have a giggle about when you're feeling better. I still have my days of feeling crap about myself BUT I now also have my days when I just don't care.....it's normal to have lummpy bits and wobbly bits! It is not normal NOT to!!!! and just think what these real stick insect types feel when they sit down....it MUST hurt if you've got bones for a bum!!!!
Please get help....keep writing on here if you need to....you know deep, deep down that you're a normal, good person :)
Reply:listen i myself suffer from depression. I have been on many different medications and i promise you things are going to get better. some people just dont understand that there are different levels of depression. I am now older and have children- two of them and im about to get married and if you had asked me if my life was going to be like this 3 years ago i would not have believed you but listen to me sweetheart, things do get better and god you will love life. i promise you that you will be happy oneday!
Reply:i kind of know how you feel. i hate myself lso, unfortuantely. my therapist says i discount the positive. it's really immature of me too. i have social anxiety. it doesn't matter how good my day is, once something happen, say i run out of things to say when talking to someon, i feel like a total loser. i am so afraid of rejection that i dont have many friends. just some old ones. its all the little things about myself. but seriously i feel bad that those people said you were lying and you are to blame for your problems. i actually just said this to someone else. they are just rationalizing. they do not want to believe that bad things happen to people for no reason because theyare araid that it will happen to them. also i suggest you see your therapist every week. i am going tomorrrow and i love therapy. also your mom is a jerk sorry. you need to find some support somewhere join something if you arent too anxious. and know that at least the people on this site support you. keep talking on this site also. my therapist actually suggestedi do it.
Reply::( Sounds like you are in a pretty bad situation. You know I've been there too - if I was the last person on earth I couldn't have been more alone - sounds like you are feeling the same way? I'm sorry I don't really have an answer for you cos I'm 23, safe and making a go of my life as much as I can, but I still hate myself. But I can tell you what I do know helped me. It really really sucs that there are far too few people who care about young people who feel like you do - wether it's because of depression, abuse, or anything else, some people just seem to think that we are a waste of space! I know it's really hard, but try not to get too angry with them for letting you down - what's important is getting good help, or helping yourself. Try not to be too hard on yourself - I don't mean about the big stuff - the reasons why you feel like this - I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't hate yourself, not cos you should but because that would be v hipocritical of me. What I mean is the small every day stuff - take really small steps - go down to the shops tomorrow and treat yourself to something you'd like - a magazine or something like that, or do something that you enjoy even if it's just for 10 minutes - remind yourself that you did a good job doing that cos if you're anything like me it is extremely hard to let yourself feel happy! Think about what you really really want - is there somewhere you'd be happier living? Maybe if you can think of the future there's a job you want to do? Try to find out about how to get there. Doing voluntary work has helped me more than anything to get my confidence up, get out, meet new people, do stuff I never imagined before and to stop me thinkin bout the bad stuff for a while too. I couldn't think of a future for a long time, but knew I was always interested in plants - now I'm going to go to the himalayas in the summer to study them! That's something way beyond my craziest dreams, and nothing big got me there, just lots of little tiny baby steps. There are lots of charities that can help you too. The first place you should look is childline (if you're 18 or under) - they can talk stuff through with you but they can also put you in touch with heaps of organisations that can help you. They are really nice there - I used to be mute but I wrote to a councillor there for a while and she was really nice - she was really the one person who didn't ever let me down. Some other places that helped me a lot were fairbridge, bernardos and venture scotland, though obiously it would depend where you live. I think that meeting other people like you can also help a lot.
I get the feeling I'm spraffing a lot and I hope I'm not making you feel worse instead of better so I'm just going to shut up now, but please remember that honestly honestly your childhood is not "the best years of your life" (I used to be terrified thinking it gets worse?!?) - and honestly it takes a long time but stuff honestly does get better when you're older and you can do what you want. I'm thinking of you xxx
Reply:You must be going through such a hard time in your life. Can I assure you things will get better. I will guess you are between the age of 13 and 22. You cant blame your mum for telling another family member. Remember parents are only human, she was probably just looking for advise herself. I can promise you you will come out of this episode a stronger person!! Look after yourself, and stay strong!
Reply:Oh Honey. It sounds like you have some serious issues going on. You have to work on the underlying cause of your problems. The Depression, Anxiety, and Eating Disorders are just complications from the real problem. The first thing you need to do is call your counselor and tell her that you are having a crises. You need to see her within the next 24 hours or so. Have you ever been on anti Depressants? if not you should consider talking to your doctor about being on something. You need a counselor that will not try the band aid approach and only discuss the obvious issues that you are struggling from but those lying under the surface.
You need to work on your sel-esteem and confidence. these are things that you can do on your own you don't need anyone else.
As for your friend. it sounds like you may have wore her out. think about it if you had a friend that always came to you with her problems and complained to and such it would be hard to always be there for her! right? She may have been having some problems of her own and felt that she needed some time to deal with her issues.
Your mom may not be equipped to help you with your issues and may have been trying to confied in other family members to know what to do to help.
That is not to excuse what she did, only to try to help you see where she may have been comming from.
You need to Find another Dr. that will adress you and your issues seriously. and you may need another counselor as well uf the one you have now is not helping you in the way you need.
Please don't think suicide is the way out. It is a Perminant Solution to a temprary problem
I hope I helped you.
please feel free to message me if you need anything
Reply:Oh my gosh!! i cant believe what other people put on here and what they told you!
I am really sorry for what you are going through! This will make you into such a strong person, which you already are! I have gone through the same thing. And just to let you know, drinking, cutting, smoking, sex, or drugs will not help you! it will make things only 10 times worse. I started smoking, drinking, cutting myself, and had problems with eating disorders when i was 13. Now i have to deal with the cravings of ciggarettes, the scars on my arms(that people judge me by), and the little excess wieght from drinking adn messing up my diet. You may want to resort to some of these things but they are really just going to bring you down more.
Some things that could help (which i did) is to keep a journal (like a diary, but i never liked the name "diary" lol) and i wrote down EVERYTHING. Everything that happened or anyting that i was feeling. I didnt write in it everyday, just when big things came up. But it gives you a chance to look at what you are thinking and doing, and analyze if they are really helping or hurting you. It helped me a ton!
Another thing that i did was lay on the ground. It sounds wierd but it is so nice to just get away from everything and just relax in silence for a little bit and concentrate on nothing. It really brings you down to earth! (both mentally and physically)
I know what your going through and i know its very hard and that it will never end. IT will end! eventually. I do have scars from my past, but they did only make me a stronger person.
I also got a pet fish! And it made me happy. Just to see how carefree it was made me want to be like it.
I know that you can get through this! Just believe in yourself and never let go of the things that you believe in! I you want happiness in a world that puts you down and makes you feel like s***, you need to look beyond the people for help. You need to look inside yourself and find out who you really are and what you stand for and believe. I truly wish good luck to you, and if you want to talk my email is alyssadevries7@yahoo.com. I hope that i helped
Reply:no , it not a solution hate our self .. smile to days ; days smile to you ..
Reply:try this site below
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/faq...
i really hope you get through this tough time..good luck.god bless and take good care of yourselff
Reply:Hang in there
Reply:get a self help book like creating self confidence and just tell yourself i am a wonderful woman infront of your mirror repeat this until u love urself and get a hobby a fun one that will give u confidence
good luck
take care
x
Reply:I think you need medication.
I'm not being rude.
Or
You want attention.
Well, that's how it seems because you added those extra details...Wanting people to say "no,you don't belong in the gutter"....
Or atleast that's how I percieve it.
Reply:work for the samaratins, you will make everyones problems seem trivial and make them feel better.
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